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I am very close to someone, and to the children. Over the last few weeks, I have begun to notice that the slightly unpleasant way this person sometimes talks to the partner has, over the years, become less of a 'slight unpleasantness at times' and more like emotional abuse. In fact now I am certain of it .
The person, I am sure, will never leave the abuser. I really, really care about them all. How can I help? The abuser knows that there is too much shouting, but I'm not sure if there is awareness of the extent of the disparaging, belittling way the partner is spoken to even when there is no anger involved. And I don't know if there is any awareness of the effect of this abuse. The partner has very low self-esteem and is very downtrodden, to the extent that it has been noticed by relative strangers .
I really, really need help with this situation. I am fairly certain that if the abuser were aware of the extent of the behaviour and it's effect, the abuser would want to change but will need a lot of support and help - and the right sort.
Any ideas?
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pinkhandbag · 13/02/2011 13:53
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