DH & I are in our mid-forties, been together 20 years, great kids, always been happy together, always had a good sex life. For the last few years though sex has become less intense for him. We still do it 2-3 times a week, but where DH always used to have to pace himself or he'd finish too quickly, now he often has trouble finishing at all. Getting started isn't a problem, but he can now go for ages without coming, and often the only solution is for one of us to finish him off by hand. He says he's just not as sensitive as he used to be any more and he needs more stimulation. We're very comfortable together so it's not a problem as such to masturbate in front of each other or together, but we both feel we're missing out a bit because he rarely comes inside me any more. I enjoy the sex, and usually orgasm a couple of times at least with him inside, but I find I get dry after I've climaxed so I have to ask him to stop (or at least take it out) before he's finished. We've tried various positions to give him more pressure while he's inside me, but missionary & doggy are the only ones that really work for me (plus we're too old & stiff for gymnastics!)
He's a lovely bloke, tells me I'm beautiful and sexy all the time, and I know he still fancies me, but I guess we're both just getting older and this is probably normal? Is there anything we can do to help this?
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Getting older, sex less intense?
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Eva68 · 12/02/2011 17:26
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