AIBU to think there is nothing wrong with wanting a relationship?

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Yes this is an AIBU but relationships is less scary!

Not as in I would settle for any relationship just to be in one. And not as in being desperate for a man, any man so long as I wasn't on my own.

And being single doesn't stop me from doing anything, I'm not unhappy, I have friends (although admittedly not much of a social life). But yes, I do think life would be better if I had someone special in it. Don't we all want and deserve to be loved?

It would be nice to have someone to share things with, someone to talk to about the day, someone to sit with whilst watching tv, someone to cook and eat with. It would be very nice indeed to have someone to cuddle and be intimate with.

Is that really so wrong?

[ladysybil]

no, its not wrong. its human nature

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So why do people act like you are desperate if you say you want a relationship?

Why do people keep spouting that you should be just as happy if you never do find someone?

[RudeEnglishLady]

YANBU

However, you only have to read a few posts in the section to realise that a relationship for many people does not involve talking, cuddling, shared cookery, sex or any of that stuff.

YANBU to want a mutually beneficial and nice relationship!

I think its not cool to admit to wanting a relationship. I think we are all supposed to be doing our careers or going to the gym or something, like as if we can't do this and have a decent husband and a nice child or two.

I'm waffling now...... I don't know really. FWIW I like being married (to a nice man).

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Oh I know, my marriage certainly wasn't any of those things!

But I still believe in it all

And as much as I would far rather be single than be in a bad relationship again, I still think a good relationship would be better yet.

[MakeYerOwnDamnDinner]

YANBU. I don't think there are very many single people who would turn down a really amazing relationship with a really amazing person if it/they came along.

The point, which you've already made yourself, is not to be prepared to settle for anything less than amazing because you think something would be better than nothing.

That's where the learning to be content on your own comes in. Because if you are, you won't be tempted to settle for a less than great relationship.

But there is nothing wrong with wanting a good relationship with someone special. It doesn't make you desperate, needy, or sad. Like someone said up thread, it's just a basic enough human desire.