Exh & I separated over a year ago. DCs are grown up but still live with me in the family home.
Split was reasonably amicable although ex admits he was more at fault. He had a couple of affairs during the marriage but that's not why we eventually split.
For some reason none of his family or extended family will now have anything to do with me and this hurts very much. They were my family too, for years.
I feel puzzled, bewildered, hurt and very angry.
Someone obviously decided I wasn't good enough to keep in touch with and I wonder if someone has told them lies about me. DH has AS and gets very confused sometimes so it's possible he has misled them, but he isn't intentionally spiteful.
Now FIL has died and I'd like to attend the funeral, but I've been told in no uncertain terms that I wouldn't be welcome. One of my DCs is going and I have mixed feelings about that because she wasn't at all close to her grandad, but she says she's going to support her dad.
I'm seething with frustration over this and the unfairness of it all.
Any ideas as to how I can come to terms with this? I thought it was going to be so easy once ex & I split but I feel such anger towards him and his family and tbh it's stopping me from moving on.
Sorry this is so long, thanks for reading.
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How do you cope with the anger after separation?
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poolet · 16/01/2011 20:56
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