I would really appreciate some advice about this. I don?t know if I am just being hugely over sensitive or not.
DH and I have been together for 5 years. We both have children from previous marriages and we have one DC between us. After she was born I suffered really bad PND which resulted in me being admitted to hospital. I am on the mend now and life is almost back to normal although I still feel a little fragile and have bad days. This may not be relevant but just wanted to give a clear picture of our relationship.
Through my illness DH has been amazing, really looked after me and the DC, took lots of time off work etc. My family think he is wonderful, as do I.
But there is something that really niggles me and I can?t get it out of my mind. I feel like DH is always putting me down in a very subtle way. I really lack in self confidence and my self esteem is at an all time low and I feel like he makes me feel worse.
Today I have had 5 children to look after. I have worked my backside off getting the house straight for Christmas and sorting out old toys to take to the charity shop and stuff that can be binned. DH saw what I had done and was pleased but then started to go on about a time a few years ago when I?d had a sort out but then the bin bags had sat around the house for a few weeks. If I?m cooking he will say something like ?oh that?s nice but I?d have done x,y,z differently? The other day I was explaining to DD how to do something and DH was there too When I had finished he started telling her a different way of doing it. I have also been asking him to get the duvet down off the top of the big wardrobe for the past few days. I asked him again today and he said he hadn?t had chance, it would literally take him 5 seconds and yet he still hasn?t done it.
I could go on and on with these trivial little niggles. Part of me thinks I am being hyper sensitive but he is making me feel like I am not good enough, like he is never happy with what I do or say.
Really desperate for any advice at
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Would really appreciate any comments on DH's behaviour
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Tippity · 22/12/2010 18:51
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