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domeafavour · 12/12/2010 00:40

Just wrote big long text re wanker H and it's disappeared. Suffice to say he is very selfish, has no clue how to talk to/raise our son who is 3. Just been out for dinner with pregnant friend and he was giving allsorts of advice, insisted he was the one to take him into their house and put him down to sleep. Playing the doting daddy.
Bollocks, he has no idea and probably put ds to bed about half a dozen times in his life.
Im so fucking annoyed, don't know how I am going to get through this for the next couple of weeks(practical/ financial reasons)

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domeafavour · 12/12/2010 00:48

Obviously arsehole husband!!

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Anabellesmumanddad · 12/12/2010 01:45

no advice but I feel sorry for you!

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Suncottage · 12/12/2010 01:48

Where is he now? DH not DS.

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izzywizzywoowooo · 12/12/2010 01:57

Can't stand when people pretend to be the doting parent in front of others, such BS.

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ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 03:25

Twat! Do you have your exit plan in place now then?

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booyhohoho · 12/12/2010 04:04

my ex does that, pretends to be the doting dad infront of people. it's so silly, the only person he is fooling is himself. it matters not a jot if other people think you are a good dad, it only matters that your child thinks you are a good dad, and when your child sees you putting on teh act infront of people they get a glimpse of what you actually should be like, and they remember it.

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domeafavour · 12/12/2010 06:57

I was in bed, he was still downstairs.
Not really a plan chippingin, I need to see solicitor and just need another paypacket to be a bit more self sufficient.
He thinks a lot about appearances and how thinks look to other people. Complete tosser. I'm finding it difficult to disguise my disdain, he knows it too. But that could work out well, won't be too much if a shock when I tell him to leave.
Sorry, just wanted a bit of a rant. Had 4 hours sleep, gonna hand ds over to him soon!! Ha ha

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Nattynoodle · 12/12/2010 12:06

DS, aged 19, a couple of Christmas ago told his father in front of various relatives that he has never been a father to him!! So they can play the doting father in front of other people, but the children see through it. They all heard it and there was an uncomfortable silence afterwards.

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ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 12:28

Domeafavour - I really look forward to that day - I will be very pleased for you! Rant away until then.

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ChippingIn · 12/12/2010 12:28

Natty - I'm pleased your DS had the guts to do that, but I'm sorry that has been the case for him :(

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LittleMissHoHoHoFit · 12/12/2010 12:30

Surely domeafavour, you didn't sit there and smile sweetly while he came out with this?

I'd have laughed my head off at him if 'H' tried to say any of this... 'Oh you do, do you?' would be liberally sprinkled too. That and a whole lot of Shock faces.

You know the truth, your DC know the truth.

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domeafavour · 12/12/2010 12:36

Yes, there were lots of [shocked] and Hmm faces

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LittleMissHoHoHoFit · 12/12/2010 12:45

I don't know how you contained yourself dome, really you are one strong woman! Xmas Grin

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domeafavour · 12/12/2010 16:34

Thanks, but I'm not that strong, if I was, I would have left already!

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LittleMissHoHoHoFit · 13/12/2010 19:54

remember, what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger...

You and me both domeafavour, we'll be super bloody heros at this rate!!

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domeafavour · 13/12/2010 23:00

Little miss, I'm sorry your h is useless too, I didn't realise. I'm here if you wanna talk about it. X

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