I love dp more than anything and he loves me. We have 2 children, 1 is mine from a previous relationship and DP has taken him on. I am 35 and he is 48, I am more than prepared to be flamed here.
BUT we have no relationship - we have not gone to bed at the same time for months, we rarely have sex, or even kiss, I can't remember the last time we went out together!! He watches porn when I am not here and knows I hate it, he just won't quit. This is something he knows I have an issue with thanks to my ex.
I go out most weekends and he has the DC, well I keep asking him to come out with me/take me out but he always and I mean always has an excuse.
Its his works xmas do next week and I was looking forward to it, today he drops the bombshell that we aren't going because others have said it is always rubbish.
Anyway - there I was in the pub last weekend and as usual stood with the same group of people. A mixed bunch of men and women who i get on really well with. One of the couples invited me to head off to another bar with them - which i declined but went outside with them for a cigarette and to say bye.
Well this other man who I always talk to kissed me, and yes I returned the kiss. Wrong of me I know as far as I was concerned that was that.
Went out on Sunday to same pub and we never said a word to eachother - like we didn't know eachother iyswim?
Then Monday I went out with the couple and this man was there - turns out he is the son of the man in the couple. We ended up kissing again.
We have been texting eachother since but thats as far as it has gone.
Thats it though, if we see eachother i know it will happen again as I am enjoying the attention. I know what is happenening is wrong on so many levels, I have for months tried to get DP to talk about the problems in our relationship but he won't, doesn't want to at the time, is tired etc etc - always an excuse.
I do ALL the childcare, finances etc and then in 6 weeks he put us £1000+ out of pocket by having lied to me for months that he had paid 2 parking tickets that he hadn't but i didn't know until we woke up to find a clamp on the car on 2 seperate occassions in 6 weeks., even then he lied and said they had been sorted.
I am not looking for anyone to say it is ok I just needed to get it all off my chest.
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35nFedUp · 03/12/2010 01:25
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