Is my friend over-reacting?

[allgonebellyup]

My friend and i both started seeing new men at the same time...i have already had my ups and downs with mine but its all ok at the mo.

My friend is freaking out slightly cos her blokey went away for 3 days to stay with his parents and didnt contact her the whole time he was gone.
He says he forgot to take his phone charger with him hence he had no charge on his phone.However he didnt apologise- he just accused her of being "crazy" for making such a fuss about the no contact.
I think she should not worry so much about it??

[loopylou6]

How long they been together?

[allgonebellyup]

only about 2 months

[thenightsky]

She is over-reacting.

[allgonebellyup]

Yep, but how do i tell her that nicely?
We both share a friend who is telling her that he is a bastard and should be dumped- but i dont think so!!?

[loopylou6]

Deffo over reacting. If she's your friend just come out and tell her. Also if she.doesn't stop that bloke is gonna be thinking 'bunny boiler' and running for the hills.

[tallwivglasses]

Hmmm. She should cut him some slack this time but if it happened again I'd be suspicious.

[Anniegetyourgun]

She is probably over-reacting about him not calling while he was at his parents', but I'd be unimpressed with being called "crazy".

[BEAUTlFUL]

Her gut feeling is right (it's a bad sign he didn't contact her for 3 days, and the story about the phone charger is just rubbish) but she's handing it very badly! Way to give him all the power in the relationship!

She should sit down calmly and decide if a man who forgets about her for 3 days and calls her "crazy" is who she's looking for right now.

[ullainga]

So by "seeing each other" you mean that they are usually in contact a lot and not just casually every now and then? In this case, if a man is interested in you then he does not disappear for 3 days with an excuse of "empty battery, no coverage, lost your number, was busy at work, was hit by truck blah blah", but finds ways to contact you - nowadays there are tons of ways after all, so it's not such a big deal to find one (well unless his parents live in the middle of nowhere without any other phones or internet in the house. not very likely though is it). So, whereas I don't know how she actually expressed her opinion, generally I would not say it was over-reacting if she asked why he did not call.

I don't think he's necessarily a bastard and should be dumped immediately though either - maybe his parents are annoyingly curious and he did not want to inform them about the new gilrfriend. But then again he should say so and not call her crazy.

[allgonebellyup]

ooh, a real mix of responses there!!!
I dont think he was right in calling her crazy-thats out of order.

[allgonebellyup]

i think i would be pissed off if my blokey did that but then mine has a tendency to sulk for days, so i cant talk.

[ullainga]

allgone, wait a minute - you have only been together for 2 months as well. you should be happy as clams at this stage. But instead he is sulking for days so you can't talk?
I think you should read what Beautiful said here earlier..

[allgonebellyup]

Apparently he didnt know her number without looking it up on his mobile.(i dont know anyones number off by heart myself)
And as far as i know they have never communcicated by email so far?

Not that i am sticking up for either side here!

[Sarsaparilllla]

I think it's resonable for him not to have had her number, I don't know anyone's number off my heart, let alone someone I'd only known for 2 months.

I assume she knew he was going away for 3 days and he didn't just disappear off the face of the earth?

If so I think she's completely over-reacting and tbh I think 'crazy' is something that would cross my mind if I were in his shoes

[allgonebellyup]

Yes, she knew he was going to his dads for the weekend, he didnt just disappear all of a sudden. I feel a lil bit sorry for him tbh, i think she unleashed the wrath of God onto him....

[allgonebellyup]

She went on the dating site where they met today, and apparently it stated he had been online today. She thinks he has been chatting to other girls on there today but hasnt had a chance to call HER since yesterday!
She has ended it with him!!!

[tallwivglasses]

Ha ha allgone. You're a good mate to her x

[StuffingGoldBrass]

Well, you know your friend (presumably). Is she normally quite laid back, or is she the type who screams and carries on at any sign that she isn't the centre of someone's attention?
It does sound like both of you are a bit desperate TBH. There is more to life than clinging on to a man and thinking about nothing other than Does He Looooooove Me?
Actually, reading last post, your mate needs to get a grip - a couple of months is very very early to start being so demanding.

[lydiamama]

I think she definitively she took it too far. I understand a bit of concern, but if they are together for only 2 months, it is reasonable for him not to know her number, or not to want his parents to know he is in a relationship yet.
She knew where he was, he told her, so if it was me I would take note, but carry on seeing him, do not think the wrath of God was needed here

[allgonebellyup]

She is normally v laid back and has all the men doing all the running for her! i usually wonder how she had them eating out of her hand tbh. So its quite unusual to see her like this.

She text me today to say he had been on POF for hours and a "few weeks" ago had even updated his profile info and pics even though he was meant to be seeing her.
Im not sure how long ago he did this though.
Im kind of glad she dumped him as he started having a go at her about her "trust issues" and i am sick of this!!

[BooBooGlass]

She's finished him for going back onto the dating site? When she herself was on the dating site??
What are you both, 12?

[Sarsaparilllla]

Exactly what I was going to say BooBooGlass - what was she doing on the site in the first place to have known???

[allgonebellyup]

She admits she was only there checking up on him! and sadly i believe this!
And yes, we are both 12.