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Is this totally inappropriate or am I uptight

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Anenome · 19/09/2010 14:52

My cousins MIL is staying with her and her DH...basically the DH had a back/shoulder ache the other night and asked my cousin to rub/massage it....she said no because shes 5 months pregnant and feels bit rough...and as she said to me, he never gives her one!

So the MIL says "Oh I'll do it" and proceeds to rub and massage her 35 year old sons back whilst he lies on his front on the hall flor...she's in her mid 60s and cousin said she thought it weird...I agree...but then I do tend to be uptight sometimes...is it weird?

They're not a touchy feely family my cousin says...so this just stuck out to her...and she said the sight of it actually made her feel a bit sick!

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pagwatch · 19/09/2010 14:54

I don't understand

she wasn't giving him extras was she?

He had a sore back and she rubbed it for him. I don't see that as expecially odd unless there was chocolate flavoured oil or somesuch.

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comewhinewithme · 19/09/2010 14:55

I don't know- but my dsis's MIL goes and has a chat with her ds while he is in the bath .

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ArghMyEyesMyEyes · 19/09/2010 14:55

So long as she didn't give him a happy ending...

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Prolesworth · 19/09/2010 14:56

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Anenome · 19/09/2010 14:57

Lol I knew I was being bit uptight!

Extras...yeuch! The thought!
comewhinewithme....now THAT'S a bit odd!

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Anenome · 19/09/2010 14:59

Prolesworth...somehow that seems ok to me....maybe its the thought of a Mother fssing over an adult son?

I KNOW she loves him and all that...I just get a bit weird when Mothers over-fuss their kids once they work for a living!

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pagwatch · 19/09/2010 15:04

But that isn't over fussing unless she wouldn't give a DD a back rub.

My son is 17. I get a bit fecked off with the idea that I am being odd when I hug him but when I do it with my DD it is fine.
He will be a grown man and married one day and his first duty and love will be his wife and any children. And I expect him to be independent and reliable etc etc.

But I will still expect to be allowed to love him because he will always be my son. And if his back hurts I will think anyone assuming that I shouldn't rub it to be a bit weird.
( only if it really hurts though. If he is being a big jessie he can fuck off)

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YunoYurbubson · 19/09/2010 15:06

I think you are very uptight. A massage can be administered by a complete stranger, or by someone you just met at a dinner party, or... well, they are not intimate things unless nakedness and chocolate body paint are involved. A mother and son = fine.

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HecateQueenOfWitches · 19/09/2010 15:08

a back massage?

Don't see the problem.

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skidoodly · 19/09/2010 15:09

The only bit that seems weird to me is that he was lying on the hall floor. Not sure why, but surely if he was so sore that he needed to lie flat on the floor it was quite mean of his wife to refuse to help him, pregnant or not.

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electra · 19/09/2010 15:11

I wouldn't say it's inappropriate at all - he's probably still her baby to her.

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Anenome · 19/09/2010 15:35

skidoodly no his wife always does his back but as I said...she's pregnant and feeling rough...and he's never given her one for ages! I don't blame her for refusing!

I'm glad it's not odd though...will pass on yur input..she's hormonal and I'm upptight...so not the best person to ask!