For those that don't remember me, I've been around mumsnet since 2005, have had a few name changes, was outed by my husband last year and haven't really been back since.
But that's not why I'm posting here, although my use of outed is pretty apt!
Ever since I met my husband, there have always been little things about him and last year he told me he was bisexual but loved me and I was the only person he wanted to spend his life with.
Soon after this announcement, he left for a lengthy deployment and throughout his time away, he would always tell me how much he was missing me and how much he loved me and couldn't wait to get back home. When he arrived back home, it felt so good to be back in his arms.
We have been happy since his return and although we only see each other 2.5 days per week, due to me not living on the base where he works, we have made the most of the time we've spent together, or so I thought.
10 days ago, he arrived home as planned, but was really quiet, wouldn't speak or even look at me. He bathed our young children, put them to bed and then announced that he was gay and always had been and that although he loved me, he loved me in a different way than I loved him. He said that he had been lying to both of us ever since we met and had always known that he was gay.
He said he decided to come out due to all the speculation surrounding William Hague, thanks William!!
So, I'm left in a marriage that I know will ultimately end, although we have decided not to separate just now as we want to let things settle and as our children are only 3 and 5, we don't want to upset them.
He's going to come back home on Fridays as normal, I'm going to be working most Saturday nights now and he will head back to his base once our children are in bed on a Sunday.
He's got everything nicely sorted, can live his own life 5 days a week, be the doting father 2 days a week
I feel stupid though as I still love him. He is still the man I married, my best friend and I'm devastated to think that soon, all our hopes and dreams for our future will end along with our marriage.
I know I am not the only person to have found themselves in this situation but it feels really lonely from where I'm sitting
Thanks (and well done) for reading all this, it feels a bit better for just having put it down.
I was thinking about writing something for our children too, so when they are able to understand exactly what happened, they can read about it, don't know if that's a good or not?
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FlappyTheBat · 13/09/2010 14:17
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