This is all a bit embarrassing so I have name changed. I have had several children and have noticed after each baby that I am tighter not looser. I had thought after the first that things would loosen up with second and subsequent babies but it's getting worse. I've not had any major tears and haven't even needed stitches even after my last baby who had a mahoosive head so I don't have masses of scar tissue or owt. It's been nearly a year since last baby was born.
DH & I had sex over the weekend (not the first time since baby was born but it's been fairly infrequent and it has hurt mildly every time since the birth but goes away after a few seconds/minutes). I had to ask DH to stop as it was hurting so much (not his fault and to his credit he stopped immediately). There had been plenty of foreplay so it wasn't a quickie and DH wasn't being rough or deliberately hurtful but it still felt like I was being split open and my cervix felt really bruised. I ended up crying afterward we stopped as it still hurt (and I still feel tender today).
What can I do to stop sex hurting? I'm not being forced/coerced into sex, I can say no to him and he doesn't try to change my mind so any relations are mutually desired.
I really want to enjoy sex with my husband but it just seems to hurt. We use condoms as contraception and I am breastfeeding if that info is of any use. I am planning to get the coil fitted when baby is a year.
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Itsmynamechange · 02/08/2010 12:39
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