An idiot AGAIN

[fluffypuff]

Moved to get away from abusive DD father. Spoke to twisted friend said he had changed he was in a band now.

Yep eventually got bck with him as felt guilty DD not having a dad.

His charmed worked, been ok for a few months but now he's here ALL the time, taking over putting me down for eg I am studying Law and he keeps telling me its a waste of time, fuck the law etc etc...he is sooo ignorant as well.

Feel suffocated...twisted friend told me b4 i went back to him a story of how her workmate daughter got kidnapped and taking to Jamaica the same age as my daughter, he is Jamaican.

I have anxiety soo feeling soo wrecked could he try to kidnap her, although he is trying to concentrate on his band he wants to get into the charts. Just don't want him to come around, feel soo guilty for exposing my kids to this freak again. Now I have learnt but its too late as I moved to this address to get away from now i'm stuck???

He used to be violent and talks and shows me where he learned the vital points system to kill someone etc etc. He has not been violent as yet?

need advice!

[LittleMissHissyFit]

you have to ask him to move out. If he doesn't go, call the police and have him removed.

You need him to leave, it's not working for you. I think you should call women's aid for rl support and advice.

Others will be along that know better than I, so hang on in there,help is on the way.

[fluffypuff]

many thanks

[tortoiseonthehalfshell]

Does he live with you? Is the house in your name?

[sillysow]

fufflypuff there is always a womens refuge that could surley help? If not my best advice would be to step away and then go to the police for safety.

He sounds like a complete arse!

[Anniegetyourgun]

Sounds like you need a better class of friend too...

[fluffypuff]

Thanks all, I told him that I need him to stay away because being stressed about his behaviour, he came round today to collect something never said a word. I am going to tell him that its over and if he wants to see our daughter this can be done via a contact centre, thinking of getting an non molestation order if he does not comply.

But its the stress I feel when he comes round, or even phones me. I start getting ratty with the kids then my hair goes completely dry.

[LittleMissHissyFit]

sweety, i know how it feels to feel like that when the phone rings, sick, sick, sick. Keep him away, it will pass as your confidence returns. You could try some rescue remedy to get you through it.

Switch the phone off, if you want to guarantee some headspace. If you need more medical help, ad's for example, go and explain what's happening to your gp and see what they say. Mine recommended the rescue remedy to get me through traumatically caused agoraphobia.

You can and will get through this, you're a lot stronger than you think you are right now. Don't worry, one day at a time.

Can you get someone to be with yiu whenever you arrange to have him see the dc?