Upset at derision for my decor

(103 Posts)
DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 15:22:42

A colleague came round for coffee yesterday and openly laughed at my house and shockingly bad taste. She spent about 2 hours ridiculing my 'delusional grandeur' and picked out item after item for scorn.

I bloody love my home and spend most of my money and time on it because I really love interiors to the point of obsession. I openly admit that and I know my taste isn't to everyone's but I was offended.

Has anyone else had this happen to them? If I don't like something I just keep my trap shut.

changeforthebetter Tue 20-Aug-13 15:59:47

Ok, just googled AA. It looks very stylish - not my taste - but we have established that is pretty dire grin

I really wouldn't care if your house was painted sky blue pink with green dots if you were warm and welcoming.

MothershipG Tue 20-Aug-13 16:00:11

Abigail!

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline Tue 20-Aug-13 16:07:39

Oooh I just googled Abigail Aherne and I love it.

Alas! I have children. Although do you think those dark walls would hide little fingerprints?

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:10:27

Ooh Fanny it means v dark. You either likes it or not. F&B Downpipe, London Clay, Hague Blue. Paint out all your woodwork and ceilings in it and get lamps or a miner's pit helmet to navigate round your house.

tethers my sister has a brilliant mid-century vibe - her house is amazing and I love and appreciate what she has done - I wouldn't have it personally and she would certainly not have mine but we do nick ideas off each other.
I think I may be too precious about my house!

It looks cool to me.

Reality Tue 20-Aug-13 16:17:18

Oh wow, I bet your house is amazing!

I fail miserably at interior design, I aim for bright cheery colours and I think my house ends up looking like a nursery school (not helped by the kids' clutter, to be fair). The only rooms in my house I like are my purple front room and teal kitchen.

I might go the other end of the spectrum and Aherne-up my bedroom. My furniture is already dark (although bland, it's from Next) and I reckon dark blue walls and a couple of antlers would do a good job of disguising teh million books (mine) and boxes of Lego (DH).

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:21:25

Pete you won't be able to see fingerprints, dust, filth or your own children... ever. They'll be 42 before you find them in the luxurious inky darkness. Can't remember the last time me spindles got a wipe shock.

Shall I sign you up for 400litres?

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 16:21:28

If she doesn't read or know about interiors, she just won't understand that style at all. And I realise it's impossible to say that without sounding like a snob, but that's ok, cos I am smile

HarumScarum Tue 20-Aug-13 16:21:34

Your house probably looks incredible judging by what I found when I googled Abigail Ahern. I am very jealous. Your 'friend' is an arse. Regardless of taste (and yours sounds very swish indeed) it's just plain horrible to behave like that.

ProphetOfDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:22:06

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Capitola Tue 20-Aug-13 16:23:25

I thought you were going to say you have feature walls in every room, pleather sofas and light up twigs.

She was obviously jealous at your trendiness.

MrsDeVere Tue 20-Aug-13 16:24:34

I think it is very rude to be so critical of someone's home.

But it happens all the time on MN. People roar at aspirational decor or chavvy decor etc.

I have a very particular sort of taste and it would drive many to utter distraction but I like it.

I appreciate effort when I visit a home. Even if it is stuff I wouldn't touch with a barge pole. You can tell when someone has put a lot of love into their home even if it is stuff from Next (roundly despised on MN) or Argos (ditto).

I am sure your home is lovely and anyone who is that rude needs a good slap IMO.

colette Tue 20-Aug-13 16:25:22

DameDoom -how rude ! Hope you don't have to work too closely with her, she must think her opinion on what her colleugues are wearing is valid as well . How judgemental. e

ProphetOfDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:25:48

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LadyClariceCannockMonty Tue 20-Aug-13 16:26:56

'I thought you were going to say you have feature walls in every room, pleather sofas and light up twigs.'

What if she was?

OP, I can't believe you didn't show her the door and let her get as far as pointing out 'item after item'. You're a better person than I. smile

Northernexile Tue 20-Aug-13 16:27:34

God I love that look. I love grey. My husband thinks I'm nuts though. I'll be your friend if you want to sack off the rude one!

just googled Abigail Ahern and I think it looks very cool
I bet your house is fab and shes just envy

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 20-Aug-13 16:32:39

Lovely style Doom.

We've had this too btw. Once years ago we spent quite a bit doing up our bathroom in Sottini ceramics etc. This was about 25 years ago and it was white and chrome which was quite modern for those days. Our neighbour came round and said 'oh it's very................white'. Fucking white, is that all you can say you of the wooden pergola angry

NoMoreMadCatLady Tue 20-Aug-13 16:36:11

Is it so dark & gloomy that you accidentally gave her bovril and a dog biscuit instead of tea & cake? In which case maybe she has a point, and you need to open a window & splash out on a 30w bulb. Otherwise feel around the walls gently to find and show her the door. Cheeky cow smile

TerribleTantrums Tue 20-Aug-13 16:37:20

She is a philistine. I wouldn't want my house to be the style of your house, but I would bloody love to visit it because the Abigail Ahern photos look amazing. I can't imagine anything more boring than every home I ever visit being in my taste. One of my friends loves to do up old furniture with chalk pain, not my taste at all but I love her home with all its distressed bits and pieces because it's interesting.

I bet she's the sort of person who visits art galleries and says "I wouldn't want that on my wall at home" and totally misses the point of art giving you an experience outside of your normality.

At least she was up front so you know that she's a cow straight off, it might have taken months of sly comments and talking behind your back to work it out.

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline Tue 20-Aug-13 16:41:25

I have a feature wall in my bedroom
to hide the bad plastering.

Furniture hides the rest. grin

I love the idea of a house where you can't see dirt or children! The nearest I have to this is dark grey decking.

DameDoom Tue 20-Aug-13 16:43:21

Am just sad that I actually really wanted to be her friend. I lied about the coffee cos' I was embarrassed - I actually cooked her a lovely lunch and spent hours rolling feckin' vine leaves the night before.

I do have a great circle of girlfriends so I am not a total saddo but she seemed great at work and I didn't want her to feel left out as she is quite new and teachers can be a funny bunch.

She does have a magnolia house with feature walls and no fireplace... never had a problem with it or even noticed until now. Am on warpath!

MadBusLady Tue 20-Aug-13 16:45:59

She sat there and ate home-made stuffed vine leaves and said all that? What a caaah!

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline Tue 20-Aug-13 16:48:10

Well I love your decor and vine leaves so I will you be your new friend. smile

Pagwatch Tue 20-Aug-13 16:55:42

I thinkthe OP is Abigail Ahern.

Great advertising grin

Seriously,what your house looks like is neither here nor there.

Being relentlessly mocking in someone's home is not the action of a nice person.
I just can't imagine how anyone gives themselves permission to do that with out a moments 'Christ I m a twat' reflection.

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