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What did you compromise on when buying a house and did you regret it?(80 Posts)
Clearly we cannot find the perfect house, but aren't clear in our minds what we should compromise on.
If we but a house in our perfect area it will be a lot smaller than what we want, it too small to fit all our
junk things in, so we'd have to have an enormous clear out. We could move a bit further out, get a either a good house with smaller than perfect garden, or a great garden and smaller house, or we can move a lot further out and get the house and garden, but have a longer commute and rubbish traffic.
We are not tidy people and have too much rubbish, to I worry that with too small we would never get tidy.
Do we just hold on for longer and keep looking, but risk prices going up (and they are going up in this area)? We are confused.
Get the house with the smaller garden. Gardens are overrated imho, we have a massive one and the weather's hardly ever good enough to be in it and it takes ages to mow it.
DD was of an age where she played out in the garden for only a short period and I'm bored of the chickens and the veg plot now.
DD now goes to the park with her mates rather than be in the garden.
We compromised o the garden. Great house, great location, on a decent sized plot, but the back garden where the kids play is small (we have a trampoline and playhouse, decking so it's useable).
Our reasoning was that as the children get older, inside space becomes more important. We don't intend to move until we downsize. There's a park down the road which the older ones can now go to alone.
I would like a bigger garden, and it bugs me. BUT it was a logical compromise worth making.
I would go for the house that is slightly bigger but has a small garden. If the only drawback is the garden size, that sounds good to me.
We bought a house that had a tiny kitchen and always intended to extend it but couldn't face the hassle. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't buy that house, but there was hardly anything on the market at the time and we'd sold and moved into rental and were desperate to buy.
We went for location, big garden and room to extend, compromised on existing space.
A second bedroom for a garden. I really appreciated the garden but dreamt constantly about "finding" a second bedroom! I moved eventaully (and have too many bedrooms now) but still have that dream of finding more rooms in that original flat. I always enjoyed the garden though and did not regret chosing it over a bedroom.
I have compromised on two houses and regretted it both times. The problem was location with both.
We compromised on the garden. We are on a main road through our small town. Outside space is small enclosed patch of
weeds grass out front with zero privacy and a paved area out the back which is about prison cell sized.
But, the weather is not good 90% of the time and we have 4 bedrooms. One of which is a playroom. Huge kitchen. Ensuite master. Plenty of storage. A lot of upgrading required but nothing too offensive atm while the dc's are small. We can grow into this house. And, once we've done the work, it will be worth more than we spent.
No garden also forces us to go out which I would not do if I could just open the door and throw the kids outside.
We choose location so bought a small house that needed loads of work. It's wrong for us. I need space and I love to live clutter free but if you have a largish family (we are a family of 5) they is generally a lot of stuff, no matter how ruthless you are.
A small house can feel stressful if you like to keep it tidy as it becomes a massive effort to keep decluttering. I have no place for bedding, no tall cupboards for brushes, limited place for the washing and no place for our books.
We bought this place because we felt we had no choice..rented place was being sold so it was a panic buy and I overruled my instincts - never would I do that again!
We have a great location, compromised on garden and kitchen size (I misses my loverly old huge kitchen-diner, waaah!) and age of property (wanted a period place, house is less than twenty years old. Chipboard ahoy. Sigh.)
However, the garden is becoming "ours" and we will use the space carefully to maximise it. Love the size (it's much bigger than the period properties we couldn't quite afford). And though I initially lusted for a semi-rural village, I know that when they are teens the bus stop is only fifty yards away amd lots of their friends will be a walk/bike ride rather than a car ride away. It was the location and space that swung it for us here, so no regrets about our compromises (so far!)
Did not compromise on anything at the time I bought my house (got everything I wanted - spacious, cul-de-sac, low maintenance garden, big kitchen diner, utility space, park and amenities nearby). However I have not loved it due to the age of the house (lots of problems) and have not thought about secondary schools, which is a big regret.
My next house is going to be in a quiet suburbia next to good secondary schools. Will compromise on convenience and amenities. Will have to drive the train station every day. This is a bugger but hope it will give a better background to my kids. Also people would say I would compromise on character but I cannot wait to live in a 60-70s house.
Actually with my next house which I am now looking to buy I will compromise on commute, being far from amenities (we want to move from south London to a quiet suburb), smaller living space, no utility space (washing machine in the kitchen - brrr), small (claustrophobic) garden. And all this for being in what is considered nicer non-problematic area with good secondary schools.
I am starting to wondering whether it is not too much of compromise!
I say go with gut too. We found the house that we thought we'd buy then came to see this one just to make sure we wanted the other & felt at home here instantly even though it was smaller-think if you can adjust the space to suit you. Our house has 4 beds but 3 are small, 1 child & No.2 due in 4 weeks so they can have small rooms & as we need a guest room we're converting the playroom into a guest suite.
I'm a hoarder so storage is important but so is outside space for kids. Personally not bothered about drives/garages but some people really are-it's what works for you. Calculate travel time etc. We live in a great house because we moved from Manchester to rural town in Nprthern Ireland to enjoy family life more so I guess we sacrificed location in a big way depending how you look at it.
No regrets, although from the outset I was aware of the maximum I could do to this house, e.g. My eye on converting the garage next as want to be here for 5 years plus!
We went for location (conservation village) and seriously compromised on size of rooms. The kitchen was tiny but we have knocked through to the dining room and extended the front room. It has been a lovely home for more than 10 years but we are on the move now closer to DS's school and DH's workplace (which is opposite direction to 10 yrs ago).
Our garden is far too small. But we had sold and had 10 days to move so went for it.
We compromised on the state of it. We got the size, type and location we wanted but anything " done up" we couldnt afford. i fell in love with it but dh was less keen as it needed tons of work to make it liveable.
Moved in with 2 dc under 3. Lots of building work including rewire and heating.
Madness in retrospect but we are happy here.
Well today we have seen 2 we like, but there are compromises
House 1 - absolute top of budget, no money for anything else ever, big house, great condition, off street parking, but on vey busy rd, very nr junction with another busy, no garage, garden ok, not huge. Not sure where visitors would park. 4th bedroom is in loft and stuffy.
house 2 - in a beautiful rural village, about 8-10 miles from city centre. Old house, big 4 double bedrooms, big lovely garden. Good condition, longer commute. Comfortably in budget, would be able to afford to eat
House 2, definitely! How long would your commute be? Mine is an hour - it used to be 15mins but it's well worth it.
We compromised on location the first time we bought and it was the biggest mistake of our lives. It's taught me (years and thousands of pounds lost later) that space, a garden, storage, lack of work needed... Nothing is more important than location.
We compromised on garden sized and house style (semi detached instead of detached). The small garden is fine for the 3 year old. It is a bit frustrating for the 9 year old that he can't play football out there - but he goes next door, to the park and to organised football after school. To be honest, it is dark and rainy most of the year anyway..but I still suffer from garden envy just a little bit...
But surely if you have a huge garden you could buy a huge shed for your rubbish at the beginning and extend later on if you really needed it?
We compromised by buying a house close to a busy road, and needing heaps of work - most of the house is untouched since it was built in 1952, apart from a dodgy 'sun room' extension in the 70s. We gained a detached house with four good-sized bedrooms close to a good primary school, in catchment for a very good secondary school and easily commutable to work/amenities though. Worth the compromise IMO.
The graduand - house 2 definitely!
we compromised on the garden. Much smaller than the acres we wanted, but very glad now that we now have a manageable garden with plenty of areas for all of us. Couldn't have compromised on style though. We had to have an old house, nothing later than 1930 for me. Although I would liked the lower heating bills!
House 2 in every way OP, the thread is unanimous!
plus you really need to eat and more space is better than a stuffy loft bedroom. Which do you "feel" is best?
House 2 no questions asked. How long will your commute be?
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