My son's best friend will be 8 on 30th August. Somehow, he has become "the child who is picked on" in his single-entry form school.
There's been teasing and a general difficulty in making friends for 18 months apparently, but now he is telling his parents he's scared to go into the playground. Five kids pick on him and it gets physical. He has one friend who recently started being afraid to play with him.
He's got some slight immaturities for his age - he isn't really into the verbal repartee and word-play that my son and his friends engage in, for instance, and he'd love to spend his time playing trains, if it wasn't that he'd be teased for it. And he's gentle and quiet. But it's so strange - I would have described him as having good social skills - he has no problems making and sustaining friendships with kids outside his school - he's still best mates with my son and another boy from pre-school days. He doesn't have any problems with sense of personal space, doesn't make life awkward for other kids - nothing to identify him as victim - maybe he's almost too well-behaved and doesn't "get" mischievousness, plus he's the baby of the class....
It's a good school but they haven't got on top of this. He's had Christmas cards with rude messsages in them; when his photo appeared on a slide show of a school trip, the kids sniggered - it sounds really horrible.
So, sorry for long preamble - could a simple change of schools work for this child? Is even a good head at his existing school going to be able to change his identity as "the one to pick on" now? Is there any evidence from anti-bullying organisations,etc? His problems would have been less severe if he'd been born two days later and put in the year below - a switch to a 1.5 year entry intake in another schoolcould mean he was one of the older ones in a year 3-4 class, rather than eternally the baby.
If there is any evidence, or a relevant organisation, I'd be glad to point my friend in its direction.
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can switching schools end bullying if the victim has good social skills?
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lingle · 13/06/2010 16:29
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