Depression after parents evening....

[houseofboys]

Went to a parents evening for my yr 2 DS and I was given his levels - 3 for reading, 2b for numeracy 2c maybe 2b for writing. I was initially pleased, he's found writing and numeracy difficult and these levels are average attainment aren't they? But the teacher didn't seem pleased, saying he didn't want to work hard and liked school for the play element rather than doing the best he could in his work. The fact he does well in reading means he should do much better in other subjects too, apparently. I thought just wanting to play this was probably typical of a 6 yr old but obviously not! I know feeling worried/depressed now probably shows I over identify but feel sad that what I feel is a good result isn't seen like it. I came back and he was eager to hear how it had gone so praised him for what he had achieved so far and encouraged him to try his best at all times. I'm sure he is doing so much more thorough work than I remember doing at his age. Oh for the days of nature trails down the woods when the sun shone.. would suit DS much better.

[rabbitstew]

Maybe see it as a positive thing in that his teacher obviously thinks he is brighter than average. Better than failing to recognise his talents. And she didn't say he was a troublemaker... I would translate that as him being a well adjusted, normal, happy little boy.

[stillenacht]

I would have LOVED my DS to have got those levels when he was in year 2 - he got level2c,1 and 1. He has just got the first prize for most outstanding project in year 5.

I think there are def some primary teachers who find teaching boys tricky (and secondary ones too for that matter. I am a teacher btw).

[curryfreak]

Rubys, Could you please explain what a more boy friendly teacher is please?

[thehillsarealive]

I think his grades are fine for his year so far. those would have been taken around xmas time - so he still has the rest of the year to 'improve' try not to let this upset you.

[spudmasher]

Lots of boys tend to be kinaesthetic learners...they learn better when moving about. In my Year 6 class I have lots. When we do research for example, rather than putting the sources of information on the tables I stick it up around the room and they have to hunt for it. They like competition too.

[curryfreak]

Funny that.
I've seen lots of boys having to be practically dragged away from their playstation/x box. They dont really seem to have a lot of problems with concentrating/staying in the same place.
Getting heartily sick of hearing about how hard done by boys are in the education system!

[cornsilk]

they sound like fab grades - well done ds

[cornsilk]

curryfreak

[MumInBeds]

Sounds like he is doing great.

Really don't worry about tests at this stage, they are such a narrow guide to how well a child is doing and children don't learn at a steady rate, they have leaps and plateaus.

[Feenie]

His teacher is telling you the truth, that he achieves those results without working very hard, so is quite able - and obviously he could do even better if he 'wanted' to work hard. What's wrong with that?

[LynetteScavo]

I think Y2 and Y^ teachers get so stressed about sats that they pass on their axiety to parents and pupils.

So he's a 6/7 year old boy who likes to play, rather than work? Good for him!

[Feenie]

MuminBeds, I would imagine these would be the latest teacher assessments, not test results.

[onebadbaby]

Sounds like the teacher is getting worried about the up coming SATs and is passing it on to you in the hope that you can get him up another level so her results will be better.

[Feenie]

Wouldn't make any difference - the difference would have to be permanent to count as sound teacher assessment. Still can't see the problem - it's her job to tell you exactly how your ds is doing, and she did. There is no 'passing on' of stress!