calling all teachers!

[sally9]

Ok please be kind,because i ran away from the GT site for all the same reasons i don't talk to friends about this. My DD is in reception she is bright and to be honest i struggle to keep her busy/happy. Her reading is particularly advanced and she will be free reading when they start books. Also They have decided that she should go in too a year two class once a week for the shared book time thing (sorry don't really know much more about that yet) MY big question is this . I am realy happy with the school so far and they seem to really understand how important it is to get things right with her (as she can get very stressed )my husband however really wants to look into sending her to a private school(this would be with a scholarship) I am not convinced this is the best thing for her. So any teachers out there , would you send your child to a private school if you had the opertunity and can ordinary primary schools really handle this the way they would like.

[sally9]

obviously she doesn't take after me as I didn't spell much right in that post did I !!!!

[moopymoo]

dh is a teacher so can I have honorary teacher status for this once? ok so you will get lots of contrasting responses, all valid, but I can only tell you of our experiences and decisions. dh is a teacher in the state sector. we educate our 2 privately for a number of reasons, including bad experiences of ds1 being very very bored and understimulated in reception and the following year. We moved him and he has flown since. dh teaches secondary, which is a different kettle of fish, but has constant struggles managing the disruptive vocal children who do not want to work and feels constantly that the able talented children miss out because of this. We both feel, through experience and observation , that this is less of an issue in the private sector that we are exposed to.

[bigTillyMint]

As 2 teachers in state schools, we are very happy with the state primary school our children go to. DD is bright and angelic (at school), DS is bright and very alpha-male.

As a teacher, I know that neither of them are G+T, but will be on-target for getting 3 level 5's at Year6 SATs, and A's/A*'s at GCSE.

But school's differ greatly and the ethos / way of working in your DD's school may be more formal/rigid, etc. They should at least be providing her with an appropriate level of books to read.

What do you mean by she can get very stressed?

[JLo2]

I teach in a primary state school and all my DS's are in a neighbouring primary state school and we are very happy. It's very difficult to give advice as it's a very personal thing and depends on your child and their school.

Personally I wouldn't send my children to a private school at primary but might consider it at secondary if there was no decent state school in the area.

I think state schools teach children about real life and mixing with a variety of people. That is a life lesson that is very important at a young age, just as important as their academic stuff. For example, my eldest son has been at school with a child with severe autism since he was 5. He is now in Year 6 and has a such an amazing understanding of how people are all different and how to understand and adapt to that. In fact all his classmates are like that. Maybe it's the left wing tendencies in me, but that kind of thing leaves me with a much bigger glow than his academic successes.

[sally9]

thank you all it is exactly the last post that is my point,but it is really good to get loads of opinions with out talking to people who know me ,thanks for being kind. They are providing her with good books but I do know other schools do a lot more with them this year than ours does,eg writing and maths but I chose this school as the focus on behaviour and confidence a lot more which is so important . I want her to be a nice person before anything else. When i say she gets stressed i mean just that, she has points of course where she is a happy carefree little girl but most of the time she worries about things ,I think she is very emotionally sensitive and also has trouble turning her brain off sometimes. If she can't do something she thinks she can like writing she has occassionally bit or hit herself which is very distressing . All i can do is tell her what a good job she has done and try to make her understand we don't always get things right. The school seem to be very aware of this though and are trying to give opertunites to deal with it. I think it comes from always succeeding .