I'm soooo fed up.
Numerous problems with this (private) school but in relation to this , a few weeks ago they involved my ex in something and somewhat excluded me (an educational needs assessment for dc) - basically I have sole custody and am the only ine involved in anything and had organised dc to be assessed. They then went to my ex (abusive) and told him and he organised the dates and told them to Bill me but no one told me anything about it (I had told them to sort it out but heard nothing more so presumed there was a long wait). The only way I found out is they accidentally called my husband thinking it was my ex, saying they were going ahead on x date and would be billing me and is he happy with that. So, I called and asked what it was about and they then said they mistakenly called my husband thinking it was my ex and my ex had given them the go ahead etc etc, but didn't inform me. They then emailed me and my ex giving out my contact details to him. Then my ex gave me a barrage of abuse (because I found out he wanted to give me this shock bill (nearly 1k) but we would even know when/where it was taking place.
Anyway then he cancelled the assessment . The school said he can do that but I don't want to go around in circles organising things for my dc and him calling and cancelling them or changing things around, especially since they don't tell me.
Anyway I moved house and won't give him my address (he randomly turns up banging at my doors but the police can't do anything because he claims he has x,y,z concern "as a father". Given that the dcs school have made such big mistakes in giving my info out (they even put all my details in a circular to all the school parents "incase they want to contact for parties etc") , I didn't tell them I moved. They never even know who they are speaking to on the phone half the time, I've been addressed by several names. My ex turned up yesterday at the school and my dc told me his dad had spoken to him at school (unknown to me but I guess legally there isn't much I can do about that) and said if he doesn't find out my address, he can't come on his weekends anymore . My plan was to make a meeting point, since my court agreement only says I have to make dc available at x time, not that we have to be at home.
So, one of the office staff came to my car this morning and said can she have my address (this is after my ex coning yesterday there) and I said no sorry because they don't keep my information protected, so she replied she was going to have to tell social services . I said that's fine, I'm sure they will be understanding of my situation . Then I received an email from her saying they can't have a child in the school who's address is unknown and she wants me to confirm I will not be giving it and then she will be informing social services .
???????????
Given that they have already given out my info to all and sundry (my husband has got texts from my ex, my email was shared and the whole class has my old address, surely I have a right to maintain some privacy if they won't keep my info private ? Can they really call social services ? In what capacity? I called children's services myself today who said it would be nothing to do with them and they won't give my address nor force me to, given the circumstances. Is this protocol or is she just threatening me?
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school office threatening me with social services for not giving my address - what can they do?
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kensingtongreen · 10/11/2016 22:09
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