DD has just started school and one of the girls, C, from her nursery school is in the same class.
DD says that C is her friend and C's mum refers to DD as C's best friend.
The issue is that C often does mean things to DD.
In nursery she broke something DD took in for show and tell, she drew all over her clothes, threw paint down her back etc. On one occasion outside of nursery she hit and kicked DD who was sat next to her.
Nursery tried to separate them and kept me up to date throughout. They also spoke to C's mum who is always incredibly apologetic and is a lovely woman who is clearly mortified by her DD's behaviour.
We are now four days into the first week. On Monday DD was so excited to see C, and the feeling was mutual.
On Tuesday they played together.
On Wednesday DD told me that C grabbed her arm and really squeezed it, saying it hurt. My DD is the type of child who falls over, jumps back up and carries on, so I know it must have hurt for her to mention it two hours after school.
Today... DD has come home with a livid bite mark on her arm. Every single tooth is visible and in the middle there is a lump and a blue bruise. It's still the same now, eight hours after school finished.
I am really upset and angry that my child is being targeted by someone who tells her she's a friend. I've reiterated that friends don't hurt, break things or hit, but I don't know what to do next.
I'm slightly ashamed to admit that I told DD to smack C if she bites her again, but she's been told off for this behaviour for a year at nursery, by the teachers and her mum and it is still going on. DD also told me that that would be NAUGHTY and looked so appalled at the suggestion she will never do it. I just hate the thought of her standing there being hurt and doing nothing to stop it. Getting told off has zero impact on C.
The teacher at the new school told my childminder that they are going to try to keep them apart, but when C isn't hurting DD they LIKE each other so DD will want and try to play with C.
I'm going to phone the school in the morning and ask for DD's teacher to call me after school to discuss.
I don't want to demonize a child who is still learning about acceptable behaviour but this has to stop.
Does anyone have any suggestions of how else I can approach this please?
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DD's friend is not friendly.
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coolaschmoola · 15/09/2016 23:39
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