DD (8yo) has been suffering at school from a difficult group of girls. She has had one pushing/hitting incident, some taking of food in dining hall ... generally just low-level exclusion tactics. I have spoken to the school, and DH and I had a meeting last week with class teacher and pastoral lead.
The girl who is the ringleader in the group is very manipulative and dominating. Her latest twist is to accuse DD of bullying her (!?!?) because on a couple of occasions DD had refused to engage with her at break time. DD was very upset by this yesterday. We had a long conversation about how choosing not to play with someone one day was not the same thing as bullying.
DD is unconvinced - I think she almost actually believes the girl's accusations and the lies she spouts. DD is incredibly anxious about school as she feels this other girl's version of events will always be believed. She does not report incidents as she thinks she will not be taken seriously. DD joined the school 18-months ago when we moved house - other girls have been there longer.
I have e-mailed the pastoral lead today to explain this latest version of events as I really want DD to be heard.
I am currently fighting with the school about moving classes - it is 3-form entry - but they are reluctant to move the girls around. How can I help DD?
At the moment we are having 30-45 minute chats about this stuff every night. She needs to de-brief and cannot wind down but bedtime is getting later and she is so stressed all the time ... as am I.
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Girl who is bullying DD (8yo) now pretending to be victim - how to deal with this?
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runningLou · 23/03/2016 13:29
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