moved dd and now want to move back!!

(25 Posts)
Fififofum Mon 01-Feb-16 18:38:23

That's pretty much it tbh. We've recently moved and so it made sense to move school as old school is ten minute drive. I wanted dd to have friends nearby etc. Old school is a small village school- 1 class per yr. new school is big and high proportion of deprived kids due to location. I liked the school when I visited and was surprised we got a place quite quickly. Dd is in year one. Since she has started (beginning of Jan) she has been kicked, spat at, called names, punched. Every day I am expecting more takes. Dd seems ok but I'm not happy with school and how they've dealt with it. It appears to be different kids in different year groups including her own. So I wouldn't call it bullying but dunno which is worse! If it was just one child then that's different. School haven't been telling me, I've had to ask dd and then contact school. I spoke to local authority and her old place is vacant. I am so tempted to move her back- she was so happy. And then I will just suck it up re the extra commute. But on the other hand i want dd to not run at the first sign of trouble. Anyway sorry for the long post.

Any help, comment etc would be greatsmile

Kbear Mon 01-Feb-16 18:40:10

no brainer - move her back to her nice school and suck up the commute as you say!

Wardrobespierre Mon 01-Feb-16 18:42:49

Move her back! DD doesn't go to our local primary. She's at a smaller village school 10 minutes away. It really is worth it.

Leeds2 Mon 01-Feb-16 18:51:43

I would move her back asap.

Fififofum Mon 01-Feb-16 19:22:17

Thank you! I don't mind saying I made a mistake! I have to apply tomorrow and then should know within 20 days, although this last time only took a week so I'm hoping it's quick!!!

Just hoping the place doesn't disappear. Fingers crossed.

Gobbolino6 Mon 01-Feb-16 19:44:55

I'd move her back like a shot.

SitsOnFence Mon 01-Feb-16 19:48:12

I think you're doing the right thing. It's not teaching her to give up; she's given it a fair chance. It is teaching her that it's ok to admit to mistakes and that you value her happiness smile

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Fififofum Mon 01-Feb-16 20:53:58

Thing that has annoyed me is the lack of communication and process for looking after a newbie. I get that they're busy but it all seems a bit poor to me. Thanks for the support!

On reflection, when we applied it happen very quickly and I was sold on the convenience and initial visit. Thing is you have to try to know it's not right sometimes. Praying she gets back in soonsmile

SpaghettiMeatballs Mon 01-Feb-16 21:37:37

Fingers crossed for you.

coalfire Mon 01-Feb-16 21:43:13

I have two friends who moved their child away and then moved back.
Neither regretted it.

BlueFolly Tue 02-Feb-16 19:37:12

Hope she gets in!

CookieDoughKid Tue 02-Feb-16 20:10:16

Move back. 10mins commute is nothing. I do 30mins each way just to keep my dds at a very good school without the issues you're experiencing. I'd move back in a heart beat because you just don't want your dd mixing with kids like those and thinking its acceptable.

CookieDoughKid Tue 02-Feb-16 20:11:46

And do complain and put it on the record to the school. Escalate this complaint - any form of bullying should not be tolerated. I would get the school to make sure parents are suitably notified and that their procedures kick in as if it's not your dd suffering it be some other poor soul who doesn't have the option to move.

kippersyllabub Tue 02-Feb-16 20:39:40

Move her back. Happiness is hugely important.

shutupandshop Tue 02-Feb-16 20:44:51

10 mintues is hardly a commute. Move her asap

shutupandshop Tue 02-Feb-16 20:46:48

Dd2 goes to our local school, few mintues walk. Dd3 goes to the next village school, 10 mintue drive, its nothing!

CookieDoughKid Tue 02-Feb-16 21:27:14

Sorry to bang on but I think we owe it to ourselves and to our dds to make sure bullying is put on the record so that it doesn't happen again, that those bullies are cautioned and that their parents are notified. I feel strongly about bullying and wished my mum should have done more about making a stand.

Fififofum Wed 03-Feb-16 21:05:00

I'm now pestering the LEA to make sure they have my form. Just hoping she gets back in. Another day, another incident. Even if this is resolved I feel like there are a lot of kids who are violent! Can't actually believe it.

Fififofum Sun 14-Feb-16 10:13:37

Hopefully find out tomorrow whether she is back in. It's been half term so LEA not able to contact the school. Looking forward to sleeping againsmile

Mamabear12 Sun 14-Feb-16 16:56:18

Move her back. 10 mins commute is nothing! I walk 20 mins every day pushing a double buggy and two kids 2 and 3 to drop my daughter off at school and 20 mins back home! So thats 40 mins of walking morning and again in afternoon smile Would love 10 mins driving commute smile

Mamabear12 Sun 14-Feb-16 16:56:59

Meant to add, its important that she is in a school that she is happy with you, that you trust etc.

Fififofum Sun 14-Feb-16 22:38:05

Ten mins commute does sound like nothing now! But it was also hard due to timing of the Afterschool club she goes to. I'm on my own n work full time so i moved her for a little less stress. However now I'm more stressed at work! Fingers crossed that I get news tomorrow

SpaghettiMeatballs Mon 15-Feb-16 07:04:02

Fingers crossed for you.

Fififofum Tue 16-Feb-16 23:32:52

Good news received todaygrin

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