My dd (aged 8) has been at her current school for 3 years. She left her previous school mainly because she was being bullied (although we did have a couple of issues with the teaching there, too).
DD liked the school at first until another new girl started there and everything seemed to change. The "new" girl (ok, she's been there a year now) seems to have replaced dd in her friendship group and seems to make sure dd is always excluded. She whispers about dd and always makes sure there is no room for dd on the lunch table and makes up silly "rules" to make sure that dd either can't play at all or that she always loses in any game they reluctantly "allow" her to join in.
I have been to see dd's form teacher and her headmistress who both insist that dd is happy and there is no problem and that the "new girl" is a lovely girl who would never do anything mean (I am far from convinced about any of this). They have told me categorically that there is no bullying in the school (even though I know of a girl in another class who is leaving because her mother believes she is being bullied). Yet dd is always begging to move school and often spends time sobbing in the car before I am finally able to persuade her to go in to school in the mornings.
I am inclined to let her try a new school. I have looked around a local private school which would potentially have a place available for her and I liked the headmistress there who certainly seemed very warm and caring and quite different from the more brusque headmistress we have at the current school. The headmistress at the current school has said that changing school would just be teaching dd to "run away from problems" and said that dd obviously has difficulties making friends which will probably follow her to any new school. (She knows dd left her first school because of bullying problems).
Is she right? Would it be sensible to let dd move when she is so unhappy at the moment, given that her present school will not accept there is any problem (or, worse, strongly implies that "over-sensitive" dd - their words - is the one with the problem)? Or are we going to make things even worse if it turns out she is unhappy at a third school? Are we teaching her to "run away from problems"?
We can just about afford the private school until secondary although it won't be easy. DD doesn't seem to have problems making friends outside school at things like Brownies and tennis club.
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Ongoing bullying - is a new school the answer?
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Moonatic · 11/02/2015 14:27
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