DD sharing PE kit WWYD?

[LynetteScavo]

DD (in Year 5) has two PE kits. She has been lending one to a boy who sits next to her, as he doesn't seem to have one this year. Her reasons she says is; 1) He won't be able to do PE otherwise, and 2) He will have a letter sent home to his mum telling her he needs a PE kit.



Now, I normally wouldn't care that DD is lending another child her PE kit, but this boy is obviously getting very sweaty during the lesson, and so I'm having to wash another PE twice a week. DD insists on bringing her PE kit(s) home after each lesson because she once lost her PE kit in school long story. I'd be quite happy for her to leave her kit in school for the entire year term.

DH doesn't see the problem, but I don't wan't yet another PE kit to wash when I'm already doing the laundry for a family of 5.

Should I just suck it up, and send two kits in twice a week? Should I just write the other child's name in one of the kits, and tell her to give it to him? Should I ask the teacher not to let DD share her kit, so the boys mum is encouraged to provided a PE kit?

[mrz]

You could just send one PE kit to school but I suspect your kindhearted daughter would be upset if she couldn't help this boy

[Wozald1989]

Your daughter sounds like a lovely girl for trying to help someone out like this. Maybe you could have a quiet word with the teacher to see if she could rustle up a pe kit for this boy if your not happy with it

[usualsuspect333]

Your DD sounds lovely, Would she not be happy to just leave one of the PE kits at school for the boy?

[Italiangreyhound]

LynetteScavo what an amazing daughter.

I'd either keep washing it or buy a new set, label it for him and give it to your dd to give to him. Plus tell her to give it to him as a gift but say he needs to get it washed out at home.

She sounds lovely and you must be very proud.

[LynetteScavo]

But would you find it weird if someone else just gave your child a PE kit?

[KiaOraOAotearoa]

The mother is probably obvlious, might have sent a kit, that got lost, and the boy knows he's going to be in trouble
Anyway, the british politeness at it's height!!! Just go to the teacher and explain! You are making things so complicated. :)

[JennyBlueWren]

Why does your child need two kits? If she's bringing in two kits she probably thinks it's only right to lend one out. If she only had one kit she wouldn't be able to.

[sailorsgal]

my ds 8 did this today as was leaving early and there was a match. Lent his rugby shirt to another boy who said he doesn't have one. I am going to ask the teacher to have a word with his mother. I don't mind as a one off but I would be unhappy if it was a regular thing.

[Floggingmolly]

would you find it weird if someone else just gave your child a PE kit?
It's stranger still to know your child needs a PE kit but not provide one for them, tbh.
Why is your dd trying to avoid a letter being sent home to let her know?

[Gileswithachainsaw]

It's very lovely of her but what happens when he grows out of it? Not fair on you to have to do the extra washing and sooner or later that boy is going to end up in trouble tat could have been avoided if he'd owned up. What happens if your dd ends up in trouble because he took her kit and she lost the other one. You'd have paid for three kits then

[Missunreasonable]

I would flag this up with a teacher. I wouldn't be flagging it up due to the inconvenience to myself but due to the fact that this boy doesn't have the necessary clothing and it could be just one piece of a puzzle that the school are putting together. As he also smells sweaty it could be indicators of a bigger problem (and might also be nothing).
Not all children have access to clean clothes that fit.
If you can afford it then buy a very cheap set for this boy and give it to the teacher when you go to see her so you are helping this boy and also making the school aware.