DS started reception in September after a year at the school nursery and a year before that at playschool (two mornings a week). He is a lovely little boy but he is standing out as different from his class members and he had the same problem in nursery. Examples are:-
His speech is not great. He is still unable to pronounce g and k and he mumbles a lot. He is having speech therapy in school and I am going to start him on private therapy as the NHS SALT in this area is rubbish.
He seems to play by himself most of the time. He struggles to relate to the other children. I am not sure why as he gets on very well with his sister and I have given him lots of opportunity to play with other kids since he was a baby but he seems to find them annoying most of the time.
He can't sit cross legged and has some other gross motor issues so he can't sit on the floor with the others at carpet time. Instead he has his own chair which is great as now he concentrates on the teacher (before he was wriggling around trying to get comfy) but the other kids are very aware of him being different.
He gets very excited and flaps his hands up and down or from side to side whilst jumping on the spot
He is not getting reading at all yet really. He can remember most of his letters but no sounds like sh, ch etc and blending is completely beyond him. His handwriting is coming along nicely. To be honest though most of the educational stuff is not as important to me right now as the social aspect as long as he is progressing and the fact is he is only young.
I have witnessed several incidents of kids refusing to sit next to him, telling him to go away, saying he smells (he doesn't, I make very sure of it), looking at him like he is odd, ignoring him when he tries to speak to them.
The school are fantastic and are trying so hard to help him. They have put him into a small group with the SENCO every week where they go off and do work on speech and on socialising. They have also referred him to an occupational therapist for his motor issues. I told his teacher today about the teasing I had witnessed and she was clearly upset for him and will be having a word with the class (without DS present) about it. There are two boys he does sort of get on with but they are in other classes, his lovely teacher is having them come and play with DS today to see how they get along :)
I am just so worried about him. DD had a few issues of teasing but they were more just girly bitchyness and she is quite popular and happy in school. DS is not unhappy to be there (I don't think) but he certainly doesn't love it. I drop him off every morning and he looks so lost. I don't think he is unhappy, I actually think he is very unaware of it all but I know that won't last long. If I ask him if he likes the children in his class or if they are nice to him he just says "I don't know".
His teacher just said he is immature. He is a Feb baby but acts much younger in many respects. She said sometimes there are children who should really have stayed in nursery for an extra year and DS is one of those, but our education system doesn't work that way sadly.
I think he is getting a label for himself already and I don't know how to help him. I feel i have failed to prepare him properly and now he will suffer possibly his entire school life because of that.
Sorry this was so long. I have so much going around in my head and I don't know where to start.
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DS (5) is becoming the 'weird kid' of the class. I just don't know what to do :(
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