Sorry if this is a bit long winded, I'm totally wiped out & find it very hard to keep it simple when I get this way, will try, but please bare with me :)
Yesterday & today DD, who is year 3 - has had a bad flare up of her stomach problems - ongoing - IBS/Possible Chrohns Diagnosis - aggravated by food additives, lactose & stress - but we have it very much under control & she's been fine for ages - (bar a few weeks ago after she was given a cheese wrap for school Dinner - otherwise after years of dealing with it, we know her triggers & I work very hard with her diet to make sure she isn't ill.
She came home from School yesterday complaining of stomach pain, saying she'd had at School too, but dealt with it herself as it was the end of the day, but otherwise seems her usual bubbly self, if a bit pale
Tonight she comes in, all her usual bubbly self telling us of her day, & then later running to the loo, she goes on to tell me she had to lie on the School bench at lunch time because she had very bad pains & then had to run to the toilet & had bad diareah, she is very good at dealing with this herself, as after a lot of School stress last year, she was going to School with constant problems & has just learnt to cope herself :(
Tonight the stomach pain & diareah continue & she's now running to the loo 6 times since getting in & now not sleeping because of it & is dizzy & washed out.
I'm wracking my brains desperately trying to work out WHY, I know she hasn't had any food/drink to set it all off - so that leaves stress, but initially she seems happy, chatting about her School work etc
I now feel pretty crap as during the course of further chats with her tonight, it turns out that this last 2 days they have been sitting SATS & I had no idea I thought they weren't doing it at her School, after some talk of it last year, or being totally thick, thought even if they did, it didn't start until year 4 or later
So suddenly Bingo!! - this is the reason she is suddenly so ill
she is a little perfectionist, & even though she's been told not to worry & to leave questions if she can't answer them & is bright & able, she she owns up to feeling pressured by the time limits & not wanting to leave any questions - she also owns up to thinking that this is all part of her "last School exams" (O"levels) so feels she has to do well :(
I'm really not happy about her sitting exams at such a young age, its ridiculous, but if she didn't worry about it, then fine I would accept it as part of the system & let it go - but its making her ill - tonight very ill :(
So my question is - how do I stand on insisting she doesn't sit any more?? (until yr6 ) - I know I can get my GPs backing on that because her problems are well documented - can I do that - as after all its her welfare thats my concern, not silly tests.
I doubt at the moment if she will be well enough for School tomorrow, but if I keep her home will they make her take the SATS at a later date??
How does this whole thing work?? - I'm happy to fight any system that isn't in her best interests, but its all new to me & so feel out of my depth[confused[
Can someone please explain the SATS system & how I stand as far as excluding her from it until older for health reasons.
Thank You :)
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SATS Stress making DD Ill - Advice Please??
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rockinhippy · 17/05/2011 22:41
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