Hopefully we'll be able to talk about it after school today, but I'm confused.
Does this mean the school have identified him as having problems? A few little things have been mentioned at parent evenings but when I asked if they thought he possibly had LD's, was told he was very similar to lots of other children in the class, nothing to worry about etc.
The thing is, I think there are issues. I have felt he displays many ASD traits since he was about 1-2yo.
I'm just not sure how to broach this with the school - was hoping they would take the lead on this, he's in reception now but was in the schools nursery last year and in parents evenings then, the same issues were mentioned but, again, they dont seem to want to say there may be an actual, underlying problem. So im left thinking that maybe im being ott and feel reluctant to mention my concerns about ASD.
But they must surely have considered the possibility - the probems I see with him, and those the teachers see (but always say 'we'll keep an eye ont it and see how it goes' - but they've now been saying that for 15months) are pretty classic traits: repetitive speech; repeating back what is being said to him rather than a two-way conversation (he is capable of conversation though); shutting down - going blank, vacant, unresponsive; not often picking up on social cues - tends to forge on being affectionate when its clear another child doesnt want to interact with him; he's a smart boy but instructions are often lost on him - for instance this morning i told him to go get his gloves off the sofa - he walked into the kitchen, i said no the sofa is in the living room, looked a bit confused, almost went into his bedroom then went into living room and started looking in the bookcase!; can get anxious with loud noises; doesnt like anything messy, painting, wet play etc. There's more but I'd be here all day
I know all of that could mean nothing though, I suppose I just dont know how to go about talking about these concerns without looking like an over anxious parent especially as i get the impression the school feel there may be an issue too but are reluctant to really say it. So could this education plan thingy be the chance to discuss it?
I am just starting to see his odd ways having an effect on how he is treated by class mates, so if there is an issue there probably it needs to looked into sooner rather than later - until now i guess ive been happy to just go with what the school say and leave it up to them to see if they think there's something wrong.
He is such a gorgeous, gentle, funny, kind little thing and its just starting to seem real now that if there is something going on then its just going to get more and more apparent because he certainly seems more noticably different to his peers than he did in nursery.
Oh god, i've rambled so much - sorry and thanks if you've read all this. I rarely talk about any of this (although I do have a SN teacher friend who is great and fwiw has told me she believes there are very clear autistic traits in ds - i dont push the topic though because i know she feels bad for 'confirming' my thoughts, though tbh it is jus a relief to have someone say, yes, i see what you are saying) I dont know what im asking really - just feel like ive pushed all these thoughts to the back of my mind but being told this morning about this education plan thing im wondering if this is that moment ive been waiting for and i dont want to miss the opportunity to get this all on the table iyswim. But without looking like im being over-anxious, preferably!
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Ds in reception - apparently teacher needs to talk to me about an 'education plan' - do i mention my ASD concerns?
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iPaddle · 10/12/2010 10:51
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