Would you say anything or let sleeping dogs lie?

[qualitystreetrosescelebrations]

On Tuesday an incident occurred at my ds' school, with him being the main victim.

I knew nothing about this, until this evening when another parent told me that she'd want to know if it was her child involved, and was horrifed the school had not informed me.

My ds (5) has told me nothing, therefore may not be affected, or I don't know...but it was serious enough that his HT banned somebody from the school premises, due to teachers and other parents reporting the incident.

Would you leave it, as the school have done what's needed to be done - bar contacting me, or would you contact the school and question why they didn't contact you?

[lilac21]

I would want to know and I'd be down there on Monday morning requesting an explanation and details of the incident. It doesn't matter whether your DS was hurt or not, clearly something nasty happened.

[MaudOHara]

If it were me I would want to know what had gone on

[Feenie]

I would contact them. If it was serious enough for those kind of repercussions, then you should have been informed.

[MaryMotherOfCheeses]

I'd just have a chat with the teacher on Monday, to find out what happened. The other parent may not have the full story either.

But asking will help to put your mind at rest and there's nothing wrong with that.

[onimolap]

I would want to know what had happened.

I'm glad you're DS is not showing sighns of concern, and you probably wouldn't want to stoke the incident, but a low key enquiry ("I understand there was an incident on (date) involving my son. Please would you tell me what happened") should give you the basic circumstances as it affects him. Then you can have a think about whether there's anything else which needs attention.

[qualitystreetrosescelebrations]

Unfortunately/fortunately it was all witnessed by parents (this being one of the parents who I was speaking to, and I very much trust her judgement) and teachers, as no guardian was there for my ds (which we weren't due to be and he was under full responsibility of school at time) - they all very quickly pulled ranks, and HT was informed. 3 parents went the following day to give information etc, and were informed that I would be contacted. As of yet, no contact.

[qualitystreetrosescelebrations]

Glad the consensus is I wouldn't be out of order to just inquire what happened. Thank you for replying.

[IndigoBell]

I would definately ask your son what happened as well.

[qualitystreetrosescelebrations]

I asked him this morning - he was asleep when I found out last night.

He's very blase about the whole thing - I said did anything happen whilst you were doing x. He responded very matter of factly confirmed whole incident, and then carried on.

[clare40]

Yes, I would want to know and I would also have issue with them not contacting me first to explain what happened. I would not be happy.