Using a different name but am regular poster
DS is in Y1 and very happy at school. In his class is a young lad with pretty bad autism
They have a lovely teacher 7 days a fortnight, and then every Friday and alternate Thursdays they have someone else.
However last week their regular teacher had flu so they had the other teacher all week. All clear as mud so far? LOL
Anyway, yesteray I was chatting with DS about having stand in teacher, and about missing regular teacher and just said casually, 'but you like Mrs X dont you?' to which he replied
'yeah she is ok, but she is mean to (autistic child- lets call him Jack) Jack. When he is naughty she holds his hand tight until he lets go of his toy. Also when Jack wont sit on the carpet she squeezes his arm and makes him cry'
On probing a bit deeper tonight he said 'if you are naughty when Mrs X is in the class you get your arm held like this' (and showed his arms being grabbed and squeezed around the wrist.
I am so torn between my DS making up utter rubbish- which they are of course prone to at 5- he can exagerate horribly and has a mad imagination- he told me off in front of an entire trainload of passengers for punching him when I had caught his ear reaching past him to grab a hat falling off. But on the other hand, if it is true then I am utterly horrifed, especially for 'Jack' who doesnt have the skills to tell his mum, andf I wouldnt want DS to not tell me something in future.
I think I have probably done the wrong thing in that I have told Jack's mum what was said and she is going to bring it up tomorrow with the school as by all accounts her DS was upset and unsettled all week.
So is 'restraining' a child like that acceptable? Should I talk to the head and say I am unhappy with my DS being handled in that way (which my heart says I should do, as I am unhappy) or is this 'normal'
Input appreciated
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Is this really bad or am I over reacting?
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WideGassySea · 22/11/2010 21:26
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