Problems at school - aggression
I was just wondering if anyone else has been in a similar situation and can offer me any advice, here goes...
My son is 4 and started primary school about 4 weeks ago. Since he started he has had lots of problems settling in. On friday I was asked to speak with the head and his teacher and was basically told that if his behaviour continues he will be excluded from school! He has been hitting, biting and spitting at the other children, as well as point blank refusing to do as the teacher tells him, constantly interrupting and talking back and they are concerned about him constantly putting objects in his mouth (which he has done since he was a baby and I have only recently been told that this in itself could be a syndrome). He says that he likes school and when asked (last night) if there's anything he doesn't like about it he said 'there are too many people'.
He went through a similar situation in nursery which lasted for quite a few weeks but seemed to be just a phase that he outgrew, and was put down to him not feeling comfortable around so many children all at once. My son is energetic and constantly talks, but he has no trouble concentrating when doing something that interests him and he has always slept well at night so I don't think he has got ADHD but I do think that there is something triggering his behavioural problems. I did ask the staff at his nursery if they thought that there was anything unusual about his behaviour and they assured me that he is just a 'normal' boy. School, however, have made me feel like this is not the case, have asked me to take him to see his GP and they are putting some strategies in place at school to tackle his behaviour. The way my sons teacher and head have spoken to me has also been eating away at me - it's as though they think I'm one of their pupils and I've been made to feel like this is all my fault. Phrases like 'I'm not having it' have been barked out at me and if it happens again I'm not sure I'll be able to hold my tongue! Of course I'll work with everyone at the school to get this sorted but I don't feel as though I should be spoken to like a naughty child!
His behaviour at home, whilst not perfect, is nothing like his behaviour at school. He's an only child but spends time with his younger cousin and there are no issues with biting or hitting and he doesn't spit at home either. He's quite a clever boy, very articulate and easy to hold a conversation with, although he does interrupt constantly and sometimes has trouble listening (I can be talking to him and sometimes he doesn't even realise it!).
Anyway, sorry for the long post! I was ultimately wondering what would happen if he was excluded from school? If anyone has any experience with this type of situation I would really appreciate hearing from them. Thanks in advance
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girlybags · 12/10/2010 12:25
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