Hi - we're having real issues with 12 yr old dd and her hair and I'm at a loss as to what to do. Like most 12 year old girls she has long hair and likes it tied back - fine, except she has incredibly fussy! She doesn't necessarily want elaborate styles - the usual ponytails/bunches/plaits etc but it has to be perfect. It might look fine to me but something will feel wrong and she'll pull it out and we'll be back to square one - and this can happen multiple times in the rush to try and get out of the house in the morning. I know this is a big thing for her at her age as appearance becomes more important but the stress and upset it's causing is so out of proportion. Some days it's ok but this happens several times a week. We end up shouting at each other and she goes to school upset and I have to go to work feeling awful too. It's hideous! I've tried just saying I'll only do it once and if she doesn't like then tough. I've tried saying I just won't do it at all. I've threatened to cut the hair off. Nothing seems to work and we're stuck in a terrible rut with it. Any advice at all gratefully received!
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