Our DD (12) is on Instagram. We are a bit wary of her being on social media, so we have her password on the understanding that we could do a random check. She charges her phone downstairs at night (or she wouldn't get any sleep if it stayed in her room!). Last night, a message popped up that I happened to see (it was on charge next to me) and the message didn't look very friendly so I took a look. She knows that I have the password and she is aware that we might check it from time to time. This is the first time I have checked it.
Anyway, we called DD down and asked her about it. DD doesn't seem to see a problem with this message, and thinks the girl that wrote it is a friend. Dh and I think it sounds like this girl is calling her a bitch, but we aren't exactly experts in text speak etc.
What happened is: My Dd tagged this friend on a picture on an account (a comedy account by the looks of it, with a silly picture). My Dd put the "face with tears of joy" emoji. Friend replied with the the same emoji. Then, friend typed (on the image so public to everyone) - "how tf did you find this weird af ac bitch?" Then a face with a straight mouth and closed eyes and a face with tears of joy again... (Including emojis in case they change the context somehow!).
I have managed to translate this to "how the fuck did you find this weird as fuck account, bitch?"
Am I correct in thinking that she is calling my DD a bitch, and what would you do/say if this popped up on your 12 year old's phone? we don't get involved in her friendships, but if she is being bullied online we need to know. I don't know if this is relevant, but I know she posts a lot of pictures on Instagram but she only had 2 posts when I looked last night. I think it is sensible to delete history, but I'm worried that she may be deleting her past posts because of nasty comments. It may be the norm to delete posts, I have no idea!
Thanks for your help!
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