(Oops Sent way to soon ) !!!!
As I was saying .. I love her to the moon and back, but she is obviously hitting preteen years, hormones flying everywhere and is becoming so so hard to deal with.
Example, today she wanted to stay with friends in the afternoon, I had plans and said no, she whinged and cried and finally though ok choose your battles and said ok fine as knew she would have a better time anyway. Picked her up she was lovely. Went shopping and she wanted to do baking things, I said well only a small cookie mix, she decided no - cupcakes and separate icing - I said no .. Q full on total meltdown. She started crying and begging, I was embarrassed so started walking away, she gabbed my jacket and was pleading don't go, I said don't be silly people are looking, she then pushed me against the aisle and cried more. People actually stopped trolleys and looked. I was SO embarrassed, plus didn't know what to do from there.
I did walk away and she followed but was in a state she was practically hyperventilating. I took her to a quiet part of the shop and told her to breath slowly and calm down.
Now home and I have sent her to her room (lots of door slamming and crying - not by me but I feel like it!) I said she can't have tea (in the heat of anger) but now she will miss out on family Saturday pizza and movie night. Do I follow through or allow a second chance?
I am just lost, she is a model child at school, has friends - is kind and considerate and well loved. She has lots of lovely things, and I know it's hormonal but what do I do. Toddlers used to have the naughty step and that worked for us. No idea how to deal with this.
I have a ds who is 13 and although he can have plenty grumpy times he has never been like this. I am actually close to tears now as love dd but feel I am losing her and she's only 11.
I lost my mum late last year and this ontop of it is starting to break me