School Journey and bitchy girls

[Diamond13]

DD has just returned from Yr7 school journey (5 days), where she says she had a great time.

But it appears she didn't end up with the girls she planned to be with and was put with another group. During a game of truth or dare DD was asked if she'd ever had a boyfriend, she told them X had been her boyfriend in Yr4. When X was asked he denied it. The girls accused her of lying and told her she was ugly and shut her out of the room. They told her they never wanted her in their room. They asked who her friends were, when she told them they told her these friends didn't really like her.

DD didn't tell a teacher because she was too embarrassed. At the end of the trip, this bunch of girls told DD they would forget about it and put behind them.

How do I handle this now? I don't want to over react but I dont want them to get away with it. DD is worried that if I say anything they will get angry with her.

Any advice gratefully received.

[MaudeLebowski]

I'd mention it to a teacher on the quiet, not letting DD know, just so that their head of year was aware.

Then I'd sit back and watch closely for a bit. It may be put behind them, as stated, or it made not, and you and the teacher will have to pounce quickly if the latter is the case.

[RibbonedandLaced]

That really was unpleasant of those girls but I'm afraid that's not the worst of it to come in High School.

Have a chat with your daughter, these girls aren't her friends if they are being deliberately cruel to her like that. Forget the forgiveness, your daughter has no reason to forgive them. Inform the parents if you have their contacts and let her teachers know, that way the girls will get in trouble but will not be able to harass your daughter in school.

I would advise her to stay away from these girls in future and hang out with nicer, more mature girls.

Best of luck.