Not entirely sure where to start.
My eldest DD has been having trouble at school. Academically, she has no problems, but socially, she really seems to struggle. She wants to be part of of a small group of girls who welcome her, and then exclude her for extended periods of time. (I think, to some extent she feels as though she should be leading the group, and doesn't like it when she can't.)
She also craves attention, and it doesn't seem to matter how she goes about getting it; disrupting the class, tall tales, and adoration of one of the boys in her class are all regular examples of things she does for attention. (At home, she's generally fine). Unfortunately, she is also easily wound up, and any teasing she gets as a result of her actions, usually provokes a dramatic reaction. It seems that about once a year, we have a 'big' problem, usually cumulative of the previous incidents, and then everything is fine, but I can't let it continue as an ongoing cycle. She has been in trouble, both at home and at school, as a result of her unacceptable behaviour.
How do I show/teach/explain to her that she doesn't have to be the centre of attention all of the time in a group environment? I don't want to change her personality, but desperately want to direct her so that she doesn't ostracise herself anymore than she already has.
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Cozyblanketandabottleofwine · 05/02/2015 22:28
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