DD has had sleep problems forever (not good sleeper as a baby, night terrors, difficulty getting to sleep) but things have been a bit better in the last few years. Recently though she has got really bad and can't get to sleep. We changed her bedtime to later and adjusted the routine a bit and things were great for about three weeks. This week though she has been up every night and one night till 4:30. She can't sleep mainly because she is anxious that she can't sleep (argh).
We have told her we aren't cross or worried about her not going to sleep, but she doesn't seem to believe this for herself. She comes down or wakes us wailing and distraught and sometimes looses control and cannot stop herself waking me whatever the time of night. Over the years we have tried reassuring and a cuddle in bed with us, marching her back to bed, being kind/stern/relaxed - but nothing works. It came to a head last night when she started coming down crying only half an hour after going to bed and continued until half 12. So in 48 hours I have had less than 7 hours sleep now.
I have tried so hard to support her, comfort her and dispel the anxiety - but basically it is now a decision she needs to make for herself. She seems to think a cuddle from me will help and demands this whether we are asleep or not - but it doesn't. Sometimes she actually wants me to shout at her!
Clearly she has anxiety around sleep (though she is calm and mature in the rest of her life, she is a sensitive child and was quite highly strung as a little one) and I don't know how to solve this. I am keen not to medicalise this and make her feel she has a problem (which I think taking her to the GP would do)- but we can't really go on like this.
Would CBT help? Hypnosis? We have been anxious in the past (night terrors between 2 and 7 was hard) but we have tried hard not to be with her (she actually didn't really know that she suffered from night terrors). And I am not anxious now, just exhausted!
Does anyone have any experience of this? Help!
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Badgerqueen · 12/12/2014 12:03
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