Sorry, this is quite long. DD is 8. She had until recently, always done sports and activities with school.
She did hockey and swimming during school (which she endured), and for afterschool she did gymnastics, irish dancing and french (which she enjoyed). I had never really wanted to overload her, so we don't do any other organised activities outside of school, other than Brownies.
She broke her ankle in 3 places just after New Year, and as a result, she stopped doing all of the activities other than Brownies, however she has been very tired, and hasn't even gone to Brownies every week. She only got out of her cast about 4 weeks ago, and has been slowly building up her activity since then. We got the trampoline out last week, and she has been doing well on it.
So she spoke to DH yesterday, very tearfully, about not being good at sport. Other girls in her class have been doing show and tell about their achievements - medals for hockey, swimming galas etc and she is feeling quite left out.
I spoke with her tonight, and she was very tearful again. I tried to explain to her that there would be plenty of time to get back to sport, and that she has had a hard year so far, but was doing really well. She just seems to have had the stuffing knocked out of her. She does really well academically and is very arty, and I tried to explain that some people might feel bad because they wanted to be better at those things.
I would love her to do tennis, but she just doesn't even want to try (we tried it about 3 years ago and she wasn't fussed).
The Easter holidays are just starting, and I was thinking of sitting down with DD and DS (6) to try to plan our break. I was thinking of getting them to come up with ideas under 3 headings -
Things I am good at
Things I would like to get better at
Things I would like to try
I was hoping to encourage her to go out cycling and do more swimming.
Any ideas on how I can manage this? I don't want her to get fixed ideas about not being good at stuff.
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I think I need to help my DD find a sport for her self esteem
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BerylStreep · 10/04/2014 21:34
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