11 ds obsessive about certain items of clothing

[lu9months]

my 11 year old will only wear one hoodie - he gets into a tizz if its in the wash. I recently went with him and choose a new one which he liked, but now this has replaced the old one as the only thing he will wear out of school. he has a party this evening and is insisting on wearing it, even though its quite a posh 'do'! he is also obsessive about not spending money - he saves all his pocket money and has over £300 now, but insists on my paying for him to go out, and if I say no, he either doesn't go out, or gets his friends to pay for him. its a real challenge, any ideas welcome

[Innogen]

I have no ideas about the hoodie.

But I would stop giving him pocket money if he isn't using it. Give him money to go out with his friends instead. He'll still get the same amount but won't hoard.

Ask for the change when he gets home, and if he choses not to go out and to save it, ask for it back. He didn't earn it, it's not his to hoard.

[TooTiredToBeCreative]

My 10yo DS is the same about clothes, there is one pair of trousers, a pair of jogging bottoms, a T-shirt and two hoodies he will wear. He has piles of other clothes, he says they are not comfortable. I have given up arguing and given up buying things and try to wash it overnight!

Not sure about the money thing but would tend to agree with previous poster-give him money to go out or ask for it back. Or possibly do half and half.

[shey02]

Well his friends will soon get fed up of that!

I never give my kids money to 'go out'. At that age, their own pocket money is a must! Then they are free to save it which is good or spend and enjoy it which is also good, both healthy choices.

You can get them to do chores for this set amount every month or week, but over and above that don't give them money as and when. That's the highway to Bank of Mum & Dad.

Doing it this way is how they learn to 'budget' their money.