My DD is 10 and in year 5 and has always been somewhat of a loner. She's not necessarily shy as she will be friendly and sociable but she just seems to find it so hard to make friends. She has some good friends out of school through guides and friends that we made when she was tiny, but at school she's always been lonely and spends her lunchtimes at the library/cmputer lab or just hanging out alone. Her school is strange in that each year, they mix the classes up across the year in a random way, so it's been hard for any friendships to endure. She managed to make become part of a group of girls this year, although before christmas they started to freeze her out and are being mean and taking delight in excluding her. For some reason, other children don't seem to want to be friendly to her and I honestly have tried to be unbiased and look at the situation from a neutral point of view. She is has a summer birthday, so isn't as mature as some of the other children, but she is sweet, kind and friendly. She says she tries to join in with groups but is told she can't play, at lunchtime kids move up and do the 'someone's sitting here" routine. She never gets invited to birthday parties or to other houses even though we often invite children over.
Her teacher noticed this happening to and advised her to cling on to one of the popular girls in the class, but this girl isn't really an ally and isn't helping. I've encouraged her to make friends with other loners, to join clubs, to not worry so much and have told her it happens with everyone. How else can I help?
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marthaspeaks · 15/01/2014 23:50
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