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DH and DD at bath time

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ianandsibel1971 · 04/07/2013 20:54

My DH still supervises my DD aged 9 and 3/4 in the bath. She appears to be approching puberty (hair growth etc) but is not embarrassed by her dad seeing her naked but is it appropriate for him to give her a bath see her naked

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Notmyidea · 04/07/2013 21:32

depends on your family really! In ours dh got uncomfortable before the dds did, but then, they were/are both a bit lazy about rinsing their hair on wash night and prefer help.
Why do you feel she needs supervising in the bath?

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RoooneyMara · 04/07/2013 21:35

Difficult question and only you know the answer I think.

I supervise my 10yo (just) ds in the bath - well I waft in and out - because he will cover the bathroom in bubbles, water and generally act like a whale who has become lost in the provinces.

He will also fight constantly with his 6yo brother if I am not within shouting distance.

I am sure as he gets more mature in a year or two he will require and demand privacy which will be granted of course. But at present he doesn't seem at all bothered.

plus they both laugh like drains when they see me naked. GrinBlush

I am past dignity

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pooka · 04/07/2013 21:41

DD is a similar age. Bit older actually - but not going through puberty yet. DH and I still hand her stuff if she's in the shower and similar in bath. She likes us to check whether all her shampoo is out for example - it always is, but she is quite pernickety and still wants reassurance that it is. Or a chat.

In fact it only occurred to me when I'd finished reading your post, that dd was older and still happy to bathe with younger brothers on occasion. Not concerned yet about dressing in front of all of us. Obviously, if she wanted privacy she could have it. But she isn't uncomfortable, and nor is DH, so I'm just carrying on as usual and following her lead. I'd have no issue with her being older and being seen by me or DH naked, pubescent or otherwise, so long as she is comfortable then that's fine.

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valiumredhead · 04/07/2013 21:41

As long as your dd is comfortable then it's fine.

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Turniptwirl · 04/07/2013 21:43

If DD and DH are comfortable with it then its fine. They should enjoy the closeness while it last cause before long she'll grow out of wanting him there.

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Numberlock · 04/07/2013 21:52

Nothing inappropriate but at that age why do they need supervising?

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curlew · 04/07/2013 21:54

Why are you asking?

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5madthings · 04/07/2013 21:55

As long as she doesn't mind it's fine,'myds1 got coy about me seeing him naked at about twelve, but he still comes in and talks to me when k a, in the bath or shower, so has no qualms re seeing me naked. He is almost 14.

Ds2 is just eleven and starting to get more self conscious but still wanders round a bit in the nude.


My eight year old doesn't care.

She doesn't need to be supervised now tho.

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pooka · 04/07/2013 22:44

DD doesn't need supervising. But she usually has a bath or a shower just before or just after her 7 and 3 year old brothers who do need supervising unless I want the bathroom to be awash and noone to actually get clean. We're all upstairs pottering, getting clothes ready for next day and so on. And she does usually ask whether all her shampoo/conditioner is out, just because she worries about that sort of thing. And then it's tooth brushing and stuff, and she has a brace and sometimes asks for help getting into trickier bits/flossing. While she's nearly ten, if she still wants help and dh or I happen to be there, we're happy to assist.

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ianandsibel1971 · 05/07/2013 00:02

Thanks, she doesn't need supervising its just a bit of a tradition that he does bath time. They just chat while she is in the bath and he passes shampoo etc.
I asked because my sister comented on it as she was aground last night when he was bathing her, dd not sister, and suggested she thought it odd

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curlew · 05/07/2013 07:29

Absolutely fine. We do a lot of bath time chatting too-if dp's around dd uses strategically positioned bubbles to protect his modesty! But sheis 17!

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Madmog · 05/07/2013 09:45

At nine, my daughter was insisting we weren't allowed in the bathroom if she was in the bath or shower. We do ask her to leave the bathroom door open an inch or so, just in case she has a problem.

I think it just depends on the family. My daughter is used to seeing me naked, but likes her privacy at the moment. Another Mum was telling me the whole family walk around naked and just don't care. Her daughter is 12 and well into puberty.

If she starts to feel conscious in any way that's she's changing, then see how she feels then.

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GlobalWarning · 05/07/2013 09:51

I don't see an issue. My six year old ds only has showers now, by choice and he hates anyone seeing him naked. So washes and dries alone. I potter upstairs so I can hear him and shout through the door. For a kid who likes privacy he sees no problem streaking through the house for the world to see though!

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MadameCheese · 16/07/2013 19:47

Tell your sister to mind her own business! My aunt was stil helping he DS to bathe at 15! Shock

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purrpurr · 16/07/2013 19:52

Tell your sister to mind her own. Sounds lovely and issue-free to me!

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MmeLindor · 16/07/2013 20:18

Pffft

Tell DS to buzz off.

DD is 11yo and now starting to become more self-concious ie covering herself up when changing when someone else is around.

As long as your DD is ok with her dad being around, I wouldn't worry about what other people think.

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MrsMongoose · 24/07/2013 12:35

My dad still saw me in the bath when I was living at home at 21! Some people just have naked families, we do. Nobody has ever been fussed about the nud.

In fact! The only time I've ever known anyone in my family to want bathroom privacy was the time, at about 14 years old, I walked in on my dad using veet on his pubes!

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NoComet · 29/07/2013 17:59

My 15y DD1 doesn't care if DH sees her naked and my 12y DD2 does.

DD2 isn't mad on me watching her dress in a morning, but isn't consistently modest the rest of the time.

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NoComet · 29/07/2013 18:04

I think tradition has a lot to do with it, DD1 has always chatted to DH while she gets dressed in a morning so she doesn't think abour it.

DD2 has akways been very independent and was often up and in her primary uniform before anyone went to wake her up.

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