We have house rules, like no hitting/swearing/respect etc but the 12 year old DS is forever breaking them. We've tried no x box/tv time/pocket money,but he just keeps going until he's lost the lot - what else can we do? He just doesn't get it, will swear blind hes not done anything even though I've seen it, and keep arguing and arguing until he's lost everything. I'm at a loss as to how I can make him understand and what I can do when he's lost everything as he may as well just keep arguing and raging then!
- For example, what would you do if you've told them to settle down and SDS puts his tv back on? Personally, I would have switched it off, however, DP just said to leave it (he's fed up with the constant battles) and I'm so fed up with SDS anger towards me I decided not to intervene as he would have kicked off at me again.
- Also, how do you deal with his swearing etc in front of our other kids? Had a situation the other night where they were going to watch a film in his room (he's the only one with a tv in his room) before going to sleep, he kicked off, swearing etc calling me awful swearing names, would you have removed the other kids from the room? I wanted to but again he would have got in a complete rage (it was bad enough as it was).
What would you have done in those 2 scenarious?
I'm at the point where I don't want to deal with SDS constant battles (however my DP is struggling to cope), and deal with just my kids :(