My little girl is now 37 weeks today and has been home with me for 4 days. I have to admit, I'm struggling. Whenever she struggles with a feed, I feel so guilty that I couldn't keep her safe inside me for longer.
My waters broke at 33 weeks and I begged them to let me be induced at 35 weeks rather than 34 because I wanted to give her chance to gain more weight (weighed 5lb2 when born). But with every struggle that she has to overcome, I feel terrible.
Doesn't help that every night when I manage to get an hour or two sleep, I wake up having nightmares about the labor that leave me in a cold sweat and feeling sick. Plus, after having been in hospital for the first 10 days of her life, I find myself obsessing over the mils of feed she has every time she eats (even though the midwife has told me not to panic, as she's an ounce away from her birthweight now after and 8% drop) and her strict schedule in the hospital meant I only had 20 minutes from the beginning of the feed to the end, I'm struggling to let that go and relax it. I don't even know what a "normal" amount of time to feed is?
I just want to enjoy my baby, but I can't shake this guilt and this nagging feeling that I could have done more to keep her safe for longer.
Anyone else ever felt like this?
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Rubysmummy2016 · 05/03/2016 14:37
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