Pregnancy after 3 m/c's

[upturnj]

I'm currently 14 weeks pregnant after having 3 MMC's in the last year (all of which died before 12 weeks but not picked up until the 12 week scans) so this one is looking good so far.

I'm still worried sick that something might happen to this pregnany and whilst I know there is nothing I can do about it, I was wondering if anyone else has been, or is going through the same anxiety that I am.

I have had regular scans since I was 6 weeks on the NHS and am now contemplating paying privately (can't afford it at all) as I don't think I can wait another 6 weeks until I have the 20 week scan.
I will probably buy a doppler in a couple of weeks.

Help anyone please.

[rainbowdays]

I have not quite got to your stage, but I can empathise. I am currently just at the early stages of pregnancy number 12. Three of which have resulted in children, the others have lead to m/c at between 4 and 12 weeks.

I think that the worry never goes away. I had my third child after a m/c and I still remember even at the 20 week scan, not really believing that it was really going to go ok this time. Then when I had contractions at 33weeks i was worried even then that things could go wrong. So I really have no idea, how if I finally get to stay pregnant again, how I will cope until the birth!

I suppose I am not helping much, except to say that my third child did arrive safe and sound despite my worries.

I am only 4 weeks pregnant at the moment and feel like I have a very long journey ahead if by any chance this baby makes it!

[slimyak]

Hi I'm in the same boat. Had MC's at 7 and 9 weeks and a MMC picked up on 12 week scan at 11 weeks development.

I do have a DD aged 3 which was my third pregnancy

I'm currently 6 weeks pregnant and in complete denile.

Where I am you only get early scans on NHS if you have bleeding or pain prior to 12 weeks, no matter what your history. Thankfully I have a human midwife whose played the system and got me an 8 week scan - what a star.

I just looked at getting a private scan - they don't do nucal scans in my area so you have to wait until 16 week blood test for screening. The scan is £150!

I'd go with getting a dopler for 15 quid on ebay and then you can reach for it every time you feel worried. Get it now and go to a midwife drop in, if you have them ,so they can show you how to use/position it properly.

On the worry front I can offer no magic. I feel like I've become this quiet being that is just waiting for nothing to happen - quite a wierd one really.

Rainbow I admire your committment I really hope this one works for you.

[upturnj]

Thank you very much for your responses. Whilst it's awful but real that others are in the same boat it has brought some comfort.

Rainbowdays - your very strong. I have certainly taken a leaf out of your book and if this one doesn't turn out will try and try again. I really hope everything turns out well for you this time.

slimyak - yes the nuchel scan is the same price near to why I live. I begged and pleaded for the NHS scans. It's very unfair that different areas of the country offer different things.
I really hope everything turns out for you and like you I am still in complete denial despite my with giant breasts and a pot belly!

Thank you again x

[vickrick]

This is my first pregnancy and I have to say all i feel is anxious at the minute. I was with my sister when she found out she had a MMC and it was awful to see her so devastated. I suppose that event haunts me somewhat so just feel like I can't wait till 12 weeks comes and maybe I can allow myself to relax a little.
I hope everything goes well for all you ladies xx