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My husbands sister cannot have babies, she can produce eggs but cannot carry them.
Years ago, I told her that if she ever needed me to carry her baby I would.
Since then she has had several attempts to have a child with her mother as surrogate, each failed.
Time has passes and there are many issues surround this that compicate things (in so far as she cannot go ahead and implant any of the embyoes left as she has not got permisssion to do so anymore by the embryoes father)
But, I know that they will not allow her mother to try to have a baby for her anymore as she is getting older now (45)
And it could be years until she gets the oppotunity and my MIL will then be nearly 50.
I feel stuck.
I am close to my SIL but its such a hard subject that I don't feel I can bring it up, we don't see her too often and its hard to 'drop it in' during a conversation.
I am totally mixed up over the thought of me being a surrogate for her, in so many levels I feel I could do it, but theres things I need to discuss with her in depth first.
What I'm trying to say is, there is no point in me deliberating over this as I don't know if she even considers 'me' to be an option.
She could be sat somewhere scared to ask me, or she might not want me to be the person to carry her child.
I just feel a bit in limbo about it all and feel terribly guilty when I heard things about her attempts and now she has moved on to adoption, so does that mean she doesn't think anyone will carry for her?
Sorry if I am waffleing.
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Really difficult situation, surrogacy.
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CaptainDumbletwit · 06/06/2010 20:00
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