I'm 11w + 6d pregnant today, and due to have my nuchal scan next week at the Fetal Medicine centre. This is my third baby, so I should know the ropes by now, but I am still worried about next weeks scan. The crux of the problem is that DH and I are having a difference of opinions over having a CVS....his view is that because I am 37 and he is 39, and we have 2 healthy children already, he doesn't want to take any risks with anything being wrong with the child (sorry - I know that having a child with learning difficulties still brings joy, but having worked in this field before I know it it not something that we would find easy). He's a very practical person, and he tends to approach things in quite a scientific manner, and I think he views the CVS as a good diagnostic tool - whereas, all I can think about is the 1 in 100 chance of miscarriage that it poses (and I've had some spotting in the first trimester so this makes the odds of miscarriage even worse I think).....I've tried to suggest that we wait to see what the nuchal says, but his view is that it is unlikely to be that great due to my age, and rather than picking a cut off point, we should just agree to do it.
BTW, we had a CVS with DS1 as the nuchal came out 1/71 so it was a no-brainer....didn't bother with DS2 as odds were 1/6500....so we are familiar with the procedure and DH thinks that the Prof nicolaides is an expert and we will be in good hands.....so why can't I stop myself from thinking that to do this would be unfair to this baby, as we would never have considered having a CVS as a matter of course with our other children? (and I was 35 when I had the last one, so it's not like I was a spring chicken then either...). I don't want this to turn into a fight and I sort of see where he is coming from but......
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lumpasmelly · 06/10/2009 14:39
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