Hi All,
I am hoping you all may be able to help me. I am 31 and 20 weeks pregnant with baby no.1 at present. Incredibly excited and nervous of course! My fiance and I have been together for 4 yrs and were booked to get married next June. Now that we are lucky enough to have got pregnant, for both financial reasons and because I really want to get myself together for my wedding and not have a teeny baby to worry about we have decided to postpone the wedding till June 2011. The big issue however is that a few of my friends and my sister who has 4 kids have told me that there are all sorts of reasons to at least legally get married before our baby is born. Names on birth certificate, who can go to register birth, tax credits, all sorts of things though not really clear on any of them (more info very appreciated). I think my main reason for leaning towards it is that if something happened (god forbid) to either of us I wouldn't want there to be any doubt about who is the others next of kin/babies guardian. My fiancee's parents reject me entirely they are really not nice people and as the mother of their sons baby I don't want them to have any reason to say I was just the mother of his child, reject our child etc.. Thought if we did it we would do it very quietly, I wouldn't call myself by his name until after our actual wedding and most people would not even know we were married. The actual wedding would then be in a Catholic Church, it's not same service but essentially same according to priest. My fiancee is Catholic so this means a lot to him, what means a lot to me is celebrating our union with/in front of all our closest family and friends so this is why when we can I do want to do the biggish affair. Sorry if this seems like a silly issue but I am really confused about what is best for us and baby. Very interested in people's views, especially those who are in a similar position or have been. Thank you so much for any help. Sorry if this is a bit long...
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Pops78 · 27/09/2009 17:01
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