20 week scan...

[Tiaxx31]

Hiya
I went for my 1st scan at 13 weeks last friday and said everything is fine. But the one thing i was so looking forward to was the 20 week scan to be able to ask what sex the baby is. But on the wall was a notice. In other words not to ask what the sex of the baby is as i could be affended with the reply of the answer being no! I then said i was looking forward to finding out the sex and just read the notice. She said its because in other places the person that scans you had told parents to be the sex and had been wrong and the parents had sued them so they wont tell you any more. She said she would just show me the buttom/private parts and i can try and make it out myself. Does anyone know if this will be easy to notice as i really want to know as to buy pink or blue things instead of all unisex cream/white. Gets a bit boring
Many Thanks xx

[YanknCock]

The leaflet I got with my 20 week scan appointment said similar things about 'don't ask' and 'this isn't what the appointment is for', but once we were at the appointment, the sonographer asked if we wanted to know the sex. She had a bit of a hard time because baby wouldn't get its legs out of the way for a while, but once it did....well the penis was fairly obvious!

I would be prepared not to find out, as I don't think it's usually that easy. If the sonographer hadn't confirmed ours was a boy, I might not have been totally confident that we'd seen it correctly (you do tend to second guess yourself with those grainy images). If you are desperate to know, you could get a 3D scan privately later where the purpose would be to find out the gender. In our area they are as little as £60.

[Tiaxx31]

Thank you very much for your reply x

[HeadFairy]

A lot of hospitals don't tell you the sex as certain cultures prefer boys to girls and there is a concern about terminating girls. I don't know if it's hospitals being over sensitive or if it really goes on. Anyway, I found out at my 2 week scan as we were allowed, but actually the sonographer just showed me ds's bottom and willy and said "what's that?" and grinned. DH was clueless (and he's got one) but I knew straight away we were having a boy. If they get a good shot of it (assuming the baby will cooperate, sometimes they don't even if the sonographer is willing to tell you the sex) I think it's pretty obvious.

[HeadFairy]

cor, 2 week scan?? that's a good sonographer It was of course my 20 week scan!

[Longtalljosie]

Ask for a picture of its bits in that case. If we can't find someone willing to tell you, you may have to pay for a private gender scan. That's what we did, it cost £100. Totally worth it x