I'm 33 wks with baby number 2. It is different to the first time, obviously life is so much more hectic when you already have a child to look after and you don't have the same amount of time to dream/obsess about the unknown.
But this time around, DH doesn't really pay any attention to the bump, only feels it if I tell him to and then seems in quite a rush to get his hand back. It's not like I nag him to all the time or anything, but I know it's harder for men to get it because it's not happening to their bodies.
And it's not just that - a few times DS has bounced right down on top of my bump and knocked the wind out of me, which obviously sends me into a hormonal panic about whether the baby is alright. But DH doesn't check to see if I'm ok and isn't at all concerned. Which, fair enough, so far it has been fine, but a fairly hefty blow to the stomach of a pregnant woman should raise some concern, shouldn't it?
I've also started having some fairly full on Braxton Hicks and some nasty ligament twangs that have been really painful - he just sits there and ignores me.
We ended up having a row the other night about it. I'm fairly sure I'm not being a total drama queen and I'm really finding his disinterest a bit upsetting. After I had DS1 he got a bit depressed because everyone (family) invaded the house and acted like he was invisible, which I totally understand because it really affected me too. But he reacted by retreating and leaving me all by myself for days after the baby was born and barely speaking to me, which still really upsets me to think of. I really don't want a repeat performance of that, but I don't know what to do/how to handle it. Is this quite common?
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Anyone finding DP/H not as interested in 2nd+ baby?
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bohemianbint · 03/07/2008 14:46
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