Had an awful day, been a terrible mummy, feeling very guilty and a little worried...

[Disenchanted]

Ive got really bad morning sickness, constantly throwing up. I must bring up 50% of what I eat, Im tired, exhausted and just generally feeling crap.

Luckily my DH is actully off from work for a while which is a complete help, but also not so much in a way because he gets frustrated at me for doing nothing but laying on the sofa all day

If I walk I get dizzy, start heaving...

I shouted at the kids too much today. The neighbours must think Im a monster

They are only bebies themselves though, almost 2 & 3and they don't understand

but they have gotten so naughty lately, they don't listen to a word I say and I CANT jump up straighht away if they are doing something as I will just hurl!!

Im worried about when DH goes back to work

and also worried about actlly handling 3 kids, allthough part of me knows Im only feeling this way because of the sickness its still playing on my mind.

[LittleMyDancing]

Poor thing, what a rubbish day! Don't worry though, you're allowed to be cross sometimes - kids have to learn that Mummies are people too, and have feelings and up days and down days.

My mum's a therapist and she always says it doesn't matter if you shout at your children as long as you 'debrief' afterwards - when it's all over, explain why you were cross and that you're not cross any more and that you love them.

Don't dwell on handling 3 - by the time this baby is born your first two will be older and easier to manage, and you will manage. just concentrate on getting through the sickness!

Big hugs to you - put your feet up and have an easy dinner.

[Disenchanted]

Thankyou

I'm sure the kids are OK but Im just worried about how long I will feel like this, 9 months seems like a hell of a long time now! lol

[greenlawn]

Give yourself a break! My two are 4 and 5 and would try the patience of a saint - throw illness into the equation and life goes from bearable to unbearable very quickly! So if you're a terrible mummy then so am I! I had sickness all the way through the other times, but this time it stopped at 12 weeks so at least it felt like there was light at the end of the tunnel (I'm 20 weeks now). If I'm finding it hard I parcel the day off into quarters and just try and get through it like that. Can dh get them out of the house as much as he can? That way the day goes quicker for everyone.

And don't be too hard on yourself about the shouting, it probably hurts you more than it hurts them! (thats my logic anyway).

Hope it gets better ...

[Essie3]

Pregnant with first, but can sympathise on the morning sickness - I had it, and it eased at 20 weeks. (Yours might go sooner ).
But I could not cope with even the tiniest little thing, and I mean tiniest. That and a bad work situation pushed me over the edge, it really did. But I got past it!
Someone should do a study on how morning sickness messes with our heads - it did for me! Have you told your children? Could be a good time to explain some facts and might stop them getting scared.

But hark at me, no children...

[Essie3]

Sorry - in case you misunderstand:
Scared - what I mean is they might be really frightened of knowing their mummy is sick and then they might act worse to get attention/out of panic etc.

[LittleMyDancing]

Oh and also use CBeebies - if ever there's a time to allow some telly, it's when you feel rubbish!

The sickness will pass, and you'll be amazed at how much better you feel when it does. Just treat yourself gently and be kind to yourself.

[Disenchanted]

Hiya Essie

I had morning sickness till 35 weeks with DS1,

with DS2 it stopped at about 13 weeks so hopefully this will be the same !

The kids know about the baby but haven't actully explained to them that the baby is the reason I feel poorly so thats actully a really good idea to let them know whats going on in that respect,

thanks!

[sweetkitty]

Disenchanted - I feel the exact same way I am 32 weeks and lay on the sofa for over an hour today as I just couldn't be bothered. I didn't have bad MS but have SPD now and it really gets me down, I just crave half and hour sitting down with no one jumping on me. Mine are 3 and 2 as well so it's full on constantly.

We have actually all got in my bed and watched a DVD before.

I get really frustrated as I can't lift them up, play football or even take them to the park that often as walking any distance is agony for me, I feel so sorry for them having this crap Mummy.

I am not that worried about having 3 DC to deal with got to be better than 2 and being pregnant with SPD.

The sickness will pass soon and hopefully you will feel a lot better.