Suffering from hyperemesis, help I need some moral support :(

[Minkus]

I'm nearly 12 weeks pg with dc2 and have been suffering from hyperemesis since week 6. I had it all the way through with ds (now 3) too so sort of expected it this time round although it's definitely worse this time.

Have been hospitalised 5 times already and think that tomorrow I'll probably be admitted again, nice, just in time for Christmas day. Feel so awful and low, dh ds and I put our Christmas decorations up just today because I've been too ill to do it before and all I could do was sit on the sofa and pass bits of tinsel to my pfb cos I feel so sick tired and generally unwell.

ALso missed a very good friends wedding today because just no chance of me being able to stand in even the church for 10 mins let alone the whole service or reception.

DH has been doing all the nursery runs (5 days per week at present as I can't look after ds when being sick 50 times a day and virtually sleeping round the clock if I'm not vomiting) as well as his new job and trying to basically be a single parent without much assistance from any quarter and so he is all out of sympathy- all he can see is how tired he is and how miserable his and ds's xmas is going to be because of this sickness. But he's not to be judged harshly, he's doing the best he can and that's all any wife can ask.

So I'm feeling really sorry for myself, hormones are raging too so sentimental adverts on tv are making me blub (also made the mistake of watching Breakfast at Tiffany's yesterday which made me cry for about 3 hours, bless)

Hoping that someone can come along with words of comfort or at least an "aaaar" to make me feel a bit less shitty.

Blatant attempt at getting some sympathy I know but just feel so wretched I don't know how to cope

[TheYoungVisiturkeyandstuffing]

oh god poor you. no experience but wanted to offer a sympathetic pat on the back.

[brusselbeansprouts]

You deserve sympathy by the bucket load. That just sounds horrific, you poor thing.

Just do what you can and let yourself be looked after. It can all wait, you just need to get through this, however long it lasts.

Big hug to you xx

[Minkus]

thank you turkey and brussels

sniff

just what the dr ordered (apart from the battery of drugs already prescribed)

[brusselbeansprouts]

Sounds hard all round but it's not anyone's fault, it's just how it is for now. Do you have any family around who can help for a bit over xmas so you can both get a break?

[OhGiveUsAPruniPudding]

Minkus, I had it too - so lots of sympathy from me. It is so hard to describe how awful it is possible to feel...(I was bordering on suicidal for a while there).
Have you had a look at Blooming Awful?
On the left is a load of pages with tips and stories, so at least you won't feel alone.
Are you on any medication? I didn't find anything worked for me (reaction to medication varies from person to person) but there are things that have long track records of safety in early pregnancy - there is a link on that site to more info.
Hope it eases off soon.

[whomovedmychocolate]

Oh how horrid. How long did it last for before - are you nearing the end or does it last the full 40 weeks?

I think you just have to go with it, accept you will be a complete washout for the foreseeable and remember what you get at the end (a lovely healthy baby).

Think positive, perhaps by new year you will be better and then you can eat all the christmas chocolate you'll have waiting.

[Minkus]

Have tried stemetil cyclazine and ondansetron- the ondansetron seems to work when they administer it in hospital via injection but not when I have it at home via either syrup or suppository

Pruni thank you I had forgotten that website am going to rediscover it now.

Feel doubly awful at the moment as when I was last admitted, via a&e, I said to dh through the snot and tears and vomit that if something were to go terribly wrong with this pregnancy and I had a miscarriage I don't want to get pregnant again I want to just stick at 1 with our lovely ds as I can't go through this any more. And I really really want this baby so am feeling terribly guilty.

[KatieMorag]

please dont feel guilty. lots of us here who have had much MUCH less serious problems in pregnancy have had our moments of thinking

" What have I done????!!?"

I just had normal " morning sickness" and felt very sorry for mysefl for months . I cant imagine how i would cope with what you are going through... i think you are really brave

[brusselbeansprouts]

Minkus I felt the same and I only had the usual all day nausea. You would be mad to want to go through this again. Don't give yourself a hard time for not liking it.

[whomovedmychocolate]

Minkus - braver than me, you are. I sob if I so much as vomit once! Your kids are very lucky to have such a tolerant and caring mummy!

[littleducks]

it is bloody awful isnt it!

i had it 8 months first pregnancy but only 5 months this time so maybe it will disapear in a bit.

eat anything you can, i only ate advocadoes when pg with dd as thats all i could, she was healthy.

can you arrange with gp to adminster injections? so before you get to crisis point you could get the drugs in and working, or have those sticks to test for ketones at home to save all the hospital trips (how the hell they can expect you to eat that food when you are well let alone when you feel SO SICK)

[sideways]

Minkus don't feel bad. When I was in hospital with hyperemesis in the summer I told dh that if someone offered to get rid of the baby to make me feel better I would agree. I know other mners have had similar thoughts. It really does mess with your head as well as your body. I also had to let dh get on with school runs and just about everything else as I was in no state to do anything.

I feel very guilty about that now, as this is a much wanted pregnancy which took a long time to arrive.

I am now 36 weeks and still being sick sometimes, but have been able to wean myself off my medication and get back to about 90% normal.

I hope you start to feel better soon. Sending you lots of sympathy.

[Dixichik]

I remember it well Minkus so I fully symapthise. Mine started when I was on an all inclusive holiday to the carribean. For all but one dayof the holiday I was in the hotel lieing on the bed with my head in a bucket.

I just wanted to die.

I found the suppositories by a company called castlemaine worked well (can't remember the drug!). they stopped me going in and out of hospital. I also found it better to lie flat.

Women who enjoy a spew free pregnancy don't realise how lucky they are.

Good luck for christmas.

[Minkus]

Thanks everyone for your kind words of support, it's just the ticket. Glad to hear little ducks that yours disappeared earlier this time, fingers crossed mine will too. Last pg was finally admitted at 27 ish weeks, although was sick a few times a day right up until birth (was 1/2 stone lighter when I had ds than when I'd got pg but he was healthy 8lbs)

Think part of the reason that the drugs work in hospital but not at home is because at home there isn't the opportunity to rest in the same way.

eg in hosp I just lie on the bed, occasionally read, nap, listen to the radio, do some knitting (recently discovered it it's brilliant!) someone brings you all your food (if I can eat it) or iced water, the only time you really need to get up is to wash or wee.

But at home it's different, although ds is at nursery during the day just moving around is part of what makes me nauseous so getting up for a drink/ answer doorbell for all xmas shopping online deliveries I'd ordered in an effort to at least get ds some pressies/ spending a bit of time with ds/ putting ds to bed as dh is knackered after work and nursery runs - basically normal life- just means it's impossible. Half looking forward to being in hosp as I know I'll start to feel better in there, even if they don't discharge me until boxing day

Off to bed now, dh has gone out for the night for a well earned drink with his chums in a neighbouring town so won't be back until mid morning, and have been v lazy and avoided bedtime struggles by allowing ds to sleep in our bed as daddy isn't there. Rods for backs and all that.

Night night
xxxxx

[OhGiveUsAPruniPudding]

I remember the dr saying "Some women choose to terminate the pregnancy but of course you won't do that because it's an ivf pregnancy" and I looked him square in the eye and thought "Don't assume anything, you prat....." - feel very guilty about that thought!

I'm amazed you can knit with hyperemesis - all I could do was weakly writhe. My friend came to see me and cried because I looked so awful!

I really hope things pick up soon. You are right, you just need complete rest. It's not like you won't be making up for it when the baby's born.

[littleducks]

keep talking on here when you feel low.

[StripeyKnickersSpottySocks]

Minkus, loads of sympathy from me as well. I had hyperemisis badly for the whole pregnancy and got sterilised afterwards as I couldn't face it happening again. Hope you feel better soon.

[TheMincePiedMadHouse]

Hi

I just thought I would add my bit in. I have suffered two pregnancies with GH and both times my husband ended up injecting me with the anti-sickness drugs, as the others didnt work for me. I never completley stopped vomiting and therefore, never fully absorbed them.

I spent many adhoc days in hospital on a drip. I also had my gall balder removed at 20 weeks pregnant, but managed to get to 38 weeks with DS1 before a failed induction and a placental abruption ended in a cash section. DS1 was 7lb 2oz

I was also on steriods and lots of other medications.

with DS2 I got to 37 weeks before I had an emergency section and he was born 7lb 4oz.

I know I could not go through it again and would not have planned a second pregnancy, but it just sort of happened (There was 15 months between the two births)

I had no support apart from DH both times, but we did manage - you have to. knowing what we have know it is worth it, but you need to take things a day at a time and you will get through it.

[Truffy18]

I was hospitalised at 15 weeks with it. Was told if it continues after 12 weeks (which the doctor said is less common) then it tends to disappear by 16 or 20 weeks. My luckily seems to have gone at 16 as I'm nearly 20 and haven't been sick since being discharged. Have you tried the seabands for travel sickness? I'm sure they've really helped me. Worth a go as they're cheap and have no danger to you or baby. It's horrible I know but keep you fingers crossed it will go soon.

Hope your x-mas is happy.

[FrannyandZooey]

Oh my dear I am so sorry

I think all of us can understand your thoughts about not bearing to go through it again

just hoping that things improve for you in some way soon