Struggling with second pregnancy........

[Fee05]

8 weeks into second pregnancy and I am finding it really hard - absolutely knackered all the time and nauseous most of the time. Sure it wasn't this bad with dd1!(now 14mths)Anyone else finding it hard? Any advice?!

[ILikeToMoveItMoveIt]

Peppermint tea for the nausea, and eat whenever you feel that you are able to. Even though the nausea puts you off food, it's not eating that can make you feel worse due to low blood sugar.

Oh, and if your dd sleeps in the day and you don't work - have a kip as well. Sod the housework!

[BeeWiseMen]

Smoothies so you get something in your belly when you're nauseous? Peppermint tea also very good.

sleep, sleep, sleep

vitamin supplements if your nausea is stopping you eating very well?

[coby]

It will get better - honestly. Second pregnancies are usually worse as you have a LO to look after as well as yourself.

I'm 16 weeks pg with DC3 and got by eating whatever I fancied whenever I fancied (although I rarely fancied anything ,ever) don't wait for even a second if you think you can eat something or the moment will pass. It's a viscous cycle as the less you eat the worse you feel, sometimes you just have to force yourself to eat a little to help break the cycle.

If you wake up at night, try to eat a little snack

Accept the fact that DD1 might have to wait a little while to get what she wants (it's good practice for later when DC2 arrives).

Drink lots and lots - take a drink with you whereever you can go and keep some quick to prepare meals available.

above all remember it will get better

hth

[snooks]

It will get better (like everyone is saying ). I'm 18 weeks with dc3, had all day nausea/exhaustion til about week 15 then a lot better days. Have got ds1 (3.2) and ds2 (18 mths), I survived with the help of Cbeebies!! Seriously, I felt so guilty they watched TV so much but I figured it wouldn't scar them for life if they watched too much for a few weeks.....now I'm 100% better and we are back to the toddler groups/park/doing crafty stuff/baking etc and I don't need the telly to "babysit" (much lol). Do whatever you can to get through the next few weeks.

[ChaCha]

Congratulations
Agree with Snooks. We don't watch TV now but when I was pregnant with DS2 (DS1 was 5 months old when I got PG) I spent much of my time lying on the sofa and Cbeebies was on for longer than it shouldn't been but was a great diversion when i needed to run up to the loo to be sick or just needed to close my eyes for a while. Both my PGs were rough right up until the end so as above posters have said, i agree, do whatever you can do to get through the rough parts....all worth it in the end, good luck x

[PutThatInYourPipeandSmokeIt]

Oh me too!! I'm 7+5 in to my second pregnancy and am feeling beside myself with exhaustion. So much so that I wake up and panic about how I'm going to get through the day. I am pathologically dog tired to the bone and can't shake it. I will watch this thread with interest! I did want 3 DCs but the way i feel now, I don't want any at all and I want to be able to sleep forever.

[Fee05]

Thanks for all the advice! nice to know I'm not the only one feeling like this. I think I just had it in my head that the second would be easy as I've done it all once before......

[coby]

Fee05 - Nah!! The second pregnancy isn't easier, it's the second child (once it arrives) that is much easier than the first - or so most people feel

My DD1 was very laid back and DD2 is a lot of hard work but I think it was harder coping with DD1 becasue I was doing it all for the first time.

I love the confused look DD2 gives me when she is having a tanrum and I'm ignoring it, she can't imagine where I have seen it all before

[debinaustria]

Oh you're not alone, I've been struggling with my 3rd. I'm 13 weeks now and still sick in the mornings but getting better every day. I coped by doing the bare minimum of everything - we ate more rubbish food than normal, I did the basic washing needed and v little ironing, I slept when ever I could and always had crackers or biscuits and water with me if I went out.

It will get better

[mummymagic]

Oh it's great reading this and knowing I am not on my own! I am 8 weeks pregnant and completely exhausted (have 19mth old too). Am trying not to feel guilty doing the bare minimum (and too uch cbeebies/not enough going out) but I figure it will get better and we are having lots of cuddles watching Pocoyo in bed. We have telly in my bedroom so she comes into me and I doze and she chills til about 8.30-9am then I just about manage to do breakfast and a bit of playing and clearing up before I am exhausted again. Hoping to get out this afternoon - am working part-time and that's been easier than being at home at the moment. So think it's good to do stuff (with difficulty) too... Plus I seem to be better than last time (I actually have had days so far where I have felt ok - was sick every day til 4mths and then some)

Not so worried about managing two kids either - just getting through the pregnancy (I wanted to adopt but dh not keen...)

Anyway, just want to say - not alone. We just need to do whatever is easiest I think. As dh says, you are growing a whole new baby, of course it's going to be hard!

[mellymell]

Hiya - just joining the thread and am hugely sympathetic.

I'm 12 weeks into my second pregnancy and have also been hit with anaemia. Passing out in Sainsburys was a right laugh I can tell you - just as I got to the checkout (with a queue). Being rather solidly built and 5ft 9" caused a slight sensation when they were trying to pick me up!

Luckily I can escape to work during the day, so at least I get to sit down for much of it, but by 5pm I am completely pooped and the idea of getting home, putting DS1 to bed and then cooking supper when I can't stand the smell of cooking is rather challenging. I've also got to finish Christmas shopping - I know online is great, but I have to go to some 'real' shops and the whole idea of floggin down the high street fills me with gloom.

I am hoping and praying that plenty of iron rich foods and going to bed at 9pm is going to do the trick. Am sick of feeling ...sick.